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All valid points. Each woman is different. She said last night sometimes she does, sometimes not. I honestly doubt each woman has an “earth-shaking orgasm” each and every time. That’s cool, cousin. Enjoy times together. O is a bonus. She’s never faked. Not her style. She won’t initiate. Not her style. Long talk last night. It’s all good. Thanks. Now go get busy shaking earth!
I think you are sorely mistaken if you think an orgasm is merely a "bonus" during sex for a women. And yeah, women do have orgasms for the majority of sexual encounters. I don't know why you want to delude yourself into believing that's not true.
 

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I think you are sorely mistaken if you think an orgasm is merely a "bonus" during sex for a women. And yeah, women do have orgasms for the majority of sexual encounters. I don't know why you want to delude yourself into believing that's not true.
Aye-yi-yi,quit the preaching, sister. Are you Dr. Laura Berman? Sheesh. My wife's mom died in January, her dad is at death's door, and now my mom is in a rehab center. My wife said last night all that stuff is weighing on her mind. Yes, even in bed. Life gets in the way of life. Lighten up.
 

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I think you are sorely mistaken if you think an orgasm is merely a "bonus" during sex for a women. And yeah, women do have orgasms for the majority of sexual encounters. I don't know why you want to delude yourself into believing that's not true.
There you go - trying to make him question his knowledge of how the world turns.;) He's got this. Really! It's all his wife's fault.
 

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There you go - trying to make him question his knowledge of how the world turns.;) He's got this. Really! It's all his wife's fault.
This is from the post: "it gets old always having to be the starter."
 

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I think you are sorely mistaken if you think an orgasm is merely a "bonus" during sex for a women. And yeah, women do have orgasms for the majority of sexual encounters. I don't know why you want to delude yourself into believing that's not true.
I try to give my wife an orgasm every time, but it isn't always going to happen and it isn't uncommon for women to not orgasm. And it doesn't mean it wasn't satisfying. My wife seems more disappointed if I don't orgasm, which happens from time to time, than if she doesn't. That is one of many reasons I love that woman. I'm not sure where you got the idea that women orgasm for the majority of sexual experiences. The data says otherwise. A 2015 study found that only 6% of women reported they always had an orgasm and another 40% said the nearly always have an orgasm. That leaves a whole that that only orgasm some or none of the time.
 

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I try to give my wife an orgasm every time, but it isn't always going to happen and it isn't uncommon for women to not orgasm. And it doesn't mean it wasn't satisfying. My wife seems more disappointed if I don't orgasm, which happens from time to time, than if she doesn't. That is one of many reasons I love that woman. I'm not sure where you got the idea that women orgasm for the majority of sexual experiences. The data says otherwise. A 2015 study found that only 6% of women reported they always had an orgasm and another 40% said the nearly always have an orgasm. That leaves a whole that that only orgasm some or none of the time.
Thanks for backing me up, BigDaddyNY!
 

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I try to give my wife an orgasm every time, but it isn't always going to happen and it isn't uncommon for women to not orgasm. And it doesn't mean it wasn't satisfying. My wife seems more disappointed if I don't orgasm, which happens from time to time, than if she doesn't. That is one of many reasons I love that woman. I'm not sure where you got the idea that women orgasm for the majority of sexual experiences. The data says otherwise. A 2015 study found that only 6% of women reported they always had an orgasm and another 40% said the nearly always have an orgasm. That leaves a whole that that only orgasm some or none of the time.
Same. Sometimes my wife just doesn’t want to try because she thinks/knows it will take her a really long time.

Last weekend for whatever reason I was lasting like a porn star and had trouble getting there myself. When that happens a couple times in a row her lady parts get a bit worn out. Which is exactly what happened.

Occasionally if I know I’m really going to have to go hard for a long time I’ll just give up because I don’t want to cause this situation. In that case I just tell her straight up hey I’m stopping because this is going to be another 10 minutes and I don’t want to hurt you. She is usually supportive of this.

It’s a tight rope act. On the one hand you want to last long enough for her to have one. But sometimes when you do that it goes overboard and then you take annoyingly long.
 

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Aye-yi-yi,quit the preaching, sister. Are you Dr. Laura Berman? Sheesh. My wife's mom died in January, her dad is at death's door, and now my mom is in a rehab center. My wife said last night all that stuff is weighing on her mind. Yes, even in bed. Life gets in the way of life. Lighten up.
And this is the time you pick to complain about her not initiating sex?
 

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And this is the time you pick to whine about her not initiating sex? Geez, just clueless.
I don't know if "whine" and "clueless" can be considered abusive. That's up to the moderator. The original post was about the past 21 years, not the past four or five months, but thanks for your input.
 

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I don't know if "whine" and "clueless" can be considered abusive. That's up to the moderator. The original post was about the past 21 years, not the past four or five months, but thanks for your input.
Wow, are you really that weak and fragile that you insinuate that someone using the words “whine” and “clueless” might be abusive and harken a moderator? You are supposed to be a grown man.
Just wow...
 

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Let’s see if I can summarize this 10 page thread.

OP:
  • I ONLY want advice on the extremely narrow question that I want to focus on.
  • Do NOT offer any other perspectives on any adjacent and potentially relevant areas.
  • I ONLY want advice that I agree with and that supports my narcissistic fantasy that my wife is totally in love with me, is attracted to me, is really into sex with me once we get going - even though she won’t ever initiate, won’t flirt with me, doesn’t want to kiss me and isn’t interested on having orgasms with me.
  • Do NOT offer any perspectives that question my narcissistic fantasies.
  • If you people don’t tell me what I want to hear, or tell me things I don’t want to hear, I’ll get snarky and arrogant. And if you keep it up I’ll cry abuse and harken a moderator.

I think that about sums up the last 200+ posts.
 

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Let’s see if I can summarize this 10 page thread.

OP:
  • I ONLY want advice on the extremely narrow question that I want to focus on.
  • Do NOT offer any other perspectives on any adjacent and potentially relevant areas.
  • I ONLY want advice that I agree with and that supports my narcissistic fantasy that my wife is totally in love with me, is attracted to me, is really into sex with me once we get going - even though she won’t ever initiate, won’t flirt with me, doesn’t want to kiss me and isn’t interested on having orgasms with me.
  • Do NOT offer any perspectives that question my narcissistic fantasies.
  • If you people don’t tell me what I want to hear, or tell me things I don’t want to hear, I’ll get snarky and arrogant. And if you keep it up I’ll cry abuse and harken a moderator.

I think that about sums up the last 200+ posts.
“Here’s a quarter. Call someone who cares” - Travis Tritt..... seriously, who spends so much time and effort typing the above manifesto?
 

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Wow, are you really that weak and fragile that you insinuate that someone using the words “whine” and “clueless” might be abusive and harken a moderator? You are supposed to be a grown man.
Just wow...
I got chided for less
 

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I don't think he's indicated he hates the forum. Bouncing thoughts off a vetted group is of course a plus.

The discussion does seem circular at times but the objective is the bouncing.
Well, his response to a poster who just spent time typing out a long response was "here's a quarter, call someone who cares."

And it's not the first response of that type.
 

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Well, his response to a poster who just spent time typing out a long response was "here's a quarter, call someone who cares."

And it's not the first response of that type.
I can dig what you're saying too. The dialogue does get circular and it seems nothing helps but I'm thinking the just talking with others helps him, and it certainly sounds like most other parts of the M are really good.

Everyone wants to vent a bit.
 
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