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No, you didn’t. Chill that ego. Don’t play psychologist, either. Have a good weekend. It’s true that most don’t. Look it up
Dude, are you completely blind to how delusional you are?
Yes, most women DO want to O most of the time. True, t’s not the same as with men, but MOST women want it regularly.
There are occasional times when my wife is content to have sex without an O for closeness and for my benefit. But my wife (and most women I have ever known) absolutely want to, and expect to O, MOST of the time.
 

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Dude, are you completely blind to how delusional you are?
Yes, most women DO want to O most of the time. True, t’s not the same as with men, but MOST women want it regularly.
There are occasional times when my wife is content to have sex without an O for closeness and for my benefit. But my wife (and most women I have ever known) absolutely want to, and expect to O, MOST of the time.
Blind? Delusional? Dude, I’m just sharing with how it is here. Why get your panties in a bunch? Not every woman is the same. Each I’ve been with is different and that’s fine. Not sure why it’s such a big deal to you.
 

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Blind? Delusional? Dude, I’m just sharing with how it is here. Why get your panties in a bunch? Not every woman is the same. Each I’ve been with is different and that’s fine. Not sure why it’s such a big deal to you.
You’re absolutely right. Most women are not that interested in regular orgasms.

And I also agree that the fact that your wife won’t initiate, doesn’t flirt with you, doesn’t want to kiss you and doesn’t care about having orgasms with you, are in no way no way indicative of her feelings or attraction towards you.
She is totally in love with you and definitely attracted to you and is totally into the sex with you. Your marriage is good to go, no further consideration or self reflection needed.
 

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Omg!

Do you get many ideas from porn? Do you have a sex life that's not influenced by porn? How much porn do you watch?
None, no, zero. I’m clean from all porn for over a decade or more... heck I don’t even look at lady swimsuit ads. If you read any of my posts I’m the biggest anti-porn guy on TAM!!

I just think that when guys start getting unrealistic ideas... must be porn. What’s wrong with that?
 

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Good point. And I agree with you. There could be a day when I meet a more - shall we say - enthusiastic woman.
LOL! Good luck with that, stud. Enthusiastic women prefer enthusiastic men, not a selfish man who will use her body as a masturbation tool, leave her hanging, and then call doing so a relief / weight off shoulders.
 

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LOL! Good luck with that, stud. Enthusiastic women prefer enthusiastic men, not a selfish man who will use her body as a masturbation tool, leave her hanging, and then call doing so a relief / weight off shoulders.
Sheesh. Why did I seek advice here about initiating only to be analyzed by a bunch of dimestore Dr. Laura Bergmans? Your insults are so far from the truth
 

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I hit 100 percent
Sheesh. Why did I seek advice here about initiating only to be analyzed by a bunch of dimestore Dr. Laura Bergmans? Your insults are so far from the truth
Her lack of initiation seems to be part of a much much larger picture of lack of enthusiasm and interest in sex with you. It doesn't take a rocket scientist, brain surgeon, or a psychiatrist to figure THAT out.
 

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Her lack of initiation seems to be part of a much much larger picture of lack of enthusiasm and interest in sex with you. It doesn't take a rocket scientist, brain surgeon, or a psychiatrist to figure THAT out.
Could also factor in her mother dying suddenly in Jan, her dad knocking on heaven’s door, and now my mom on poor health, worries about our kids ... so many factors influence us. So please ease up on the sarcasm. Again, everyone is wired different. We are happy in bed once we get started up. For the umpteenth time, all I fooking said was I wish she started more often. That’s it
 
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None, no, zero. I’m clean from all porn for over a decade or more... heck I don’t even look at lady swimsuit ads. If you read any of my posts I’m the biggest anti-porn guy on TAM!!

I just think that when guys start getting unrealistic ideas... must be porn. What’s wrong with that?
It's okay to watch porn now and then. May give you some ideas to try in bed with CatholicMom.
 

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It's okay to watch porn now and then. May give you some ideas to try in bed with CatholicMom.
I like to think I'm more creative and intelligent than just "monkey see monkey do". I think all porn teaches is how to degrade someone or it turns sex into a circus act.

Also, the actors are often victims of exploitation and abuse. Did you know that Pornhub reccently removed almost half of their content for this reason? So yeah, by watching porn you may be benefiting from someone else's suffering/exploitation.
 

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I like to think I'm more creative and intelligent than just "monkey see monkey do". I think all porn teaches is how to degrade someone or it turns sex into a circus act.

Also, the actors are often victims of exploitation and abuse. Did you know that Pornhub reccently removed almost half of their content for this reason? So yeah, by watching porn you may be benefiting from someone else's suffering/exploitation.
Why diss monkeys?
 

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Sheesh. Why did I seek advice here about initiating only to be analyzed by a bunch of dimestore Dr. Laura Bergmans? Your insults are so far from the truth
Like half of my reply was using your own words....

For the umpteenth time, all I fooking said was I wish she started more often.
And, all I'm saying is give her a reason to want to.
 

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Like half of my reply was using your own words....



And, all I'm saying is give her a reason to want to.
I’m trying, really. But it’s awfully difficult when she stops short. Claims I make too much a deal of it, so I quit worrying about it. “It’s my body,” she says. Fine, whatever. You can lead a horse to water ...
 

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"Tell me, have you ever really,
Really, really ever loved a woman.."
Though I know I'll never lose affection
For people and things that went before
I know I'll often stop and think about them
In my life I love you more
 

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This frustrates me to no end. We have a relatively good sex life, average twice a week. But my wife has initiated just twice in the past 21 years. Once in the spring of 2000 when she was pregnant with our second child, and once in the spring of 2015. That's it. She claims she has a lower sex drive. I'd term it kinda on life support. I have asked her to start now and then, said it would be great. She says she will, she never does. Any suggestions? Do I just go with the flow? It gets to be a chore, having to initiate every time and having to plan what happens in bed. It's like I'm directing my own adult movie. As said, we do have sex twice a week - which is great given our ages, both in early 60s - but it gets old always having to be the starter.
Give her a leather dominatrix outfit and tell her that it's a dirty job but someone's got to do it.
 

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Blind? Delusional? Dude, I’m just sharing with how it is here. Why get your panties in a bunch? Not every woman is the same. Each I’ve been with is different and that’s fine. Not sure why it’s such a big deal to you.
Well if/since your wife isn’t having an orgasm when you have sex - what’s the point for her?
Make sure and give her a REAL orgasm every time and she will want to more often.

She doesn’t want to as much as you because it’s not pleasurable for her. When you “think” she’s having an orgasm sh may be faking to get it over with faster.

Learn more about how to give her an orgasm - a real earth shaking orgasm. She will be interested more often. When a gal has sex more frequently she usually wants it more and more.
 

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Well if/since your wife isn’t having an orgasm when you have sex - what’s the point for her?
Make sure and give her a REAL orgasm every time and she will want to more often.

She doesn’t want to as much as you because it’s not pleasurable for her. When you “think” she’s having an orgasm sh may be faking to get it over with faster.

Learn more about how to give her an orgasm - a real earth shaking orgasm. She will be interested more often. When a gal has sex more frequently she usually wants it more and more.
All valid points. Each woman is different. She said last night sometimes she does, sometimes not. I honestly doubt each woman has an “earth-shaking orgasm” each and every time. That’s cool, cousin. Enjoy times together. O is a bonus. She’s never faked. Not her style. She won’t initiate. Not her style. Long talk last night. It’s all good. Thanks. Now go get busy shaking earth!
 
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