This frustrates me to no end. We have a relatively good sex life, average twice a week. But my wife has initiated just twice in the past 21 years. Once in the spring of 2000 when she was pregnant with our second child, and once in the spring of 2015. That's it. She claims she has a lower sex drive. I'd term it kinda on life support. I have asked her to start now and then, said it would be great. She says she will, she never does. Any suggestions? Do I just go with the flow? It gets to be a chore, having to initiate every time and having to plan what happens in bed. It's like I'm directing my own adult movie. As said, we do have sex twice a week - which is great given our ages, both in early 60s - but it gets old always having to be the starter.