Wow, what a wealth of experiences and advice on this web site.
First post here, I'll try to keep it short and to the point.
I'm a man who's always been a successful provider for my wife and young family. As far as stability goes (i.e. financial, availability, leadership, faithfulness, etc...) things have been incredibly stable and consistent for almost 10 years since we married. Physically, and in the looks department, I am doing pretty darn good. And yes, I am playful at times too.
However, I feel my wife is stuck in some sort of fantasy land. She is literally hooked on her daytime soap and is in constant daily contact with her divorced and promiscuous "BFF". Her words, not mine (damn I hate immature Internet shorthand). Everyday it seems the two need to talk about how their weekend went, and "tell me about Mr. xyz#50" is always in the discussion.
My problem? She has not known how to show me affection for years. I suspect her BFF is the same. Any attempt on my part to show physical affection (hug, kiss, playful slap on the butt) is met with resistance. I'm harassing her. Even when she tries to smile at me, it is just an attempt. No reception at all...nada. In other words, I think she hates me; and I truly believe most of it has to deal with this fantasy she's stuck in.
How does one suggest handling this? If at all.
First post here, I'll try to keep it short and to the point.
I'm a man who's always been a successful provider for my wife and young family. As far as stability goes (i.e. financial, availability, leadership, faithfulness, etc...) things have been incredibly stable and consistent for almost 10 years since we married. Physically, and in the looks department, I am doing pretty darn good. And yes, I am playful at times too.
However, I feel my wife is stuck in some sort of fantasy land. She is literally hooked on her daytime soap and is in constant daily contact with her divorced and promiscuous "BFF". Her words, not mine (damn I hate immature Internet shorthand). Everyday it seems the two need to talk about how their weekend went, and "tell me about Mr. xyz#50" is always in the discussion.
My problem? She has not known how to show me affection for years. I suspect her BFF is the same. Any attempt on my part to show physical affection (hug, kiss, playful slap on the butt) is met with resistance. I'm harassing her. Even when she tries to smile at me, it is just an attempt. No reception at all...nada. In other words, I think she hates me; and I truly believe most of it has to deal with this fantasy she's stuck in.
How does one suggest handling this? If at all.