I love my wife dearly, But that didn't stop me from cheating again. I went way underground and thought i would never get caught. I spent a lot of time with my wife. I was attentive, only met the other women during normal work hours, made sure to have sex regularly with my wife. I used a disposable phone i kept only at work, I never emailed or texted from home.Those who don't learn from history are doomed to repeat it. This goes through my head as I write this. When my wife and I started dating, I was the OM, she left him, but it was messy. And it was a rocky start, she flirted and played with me and other men's emotions for the first 6 mos or so. Then, after confronting her, she backed off and was faithful AFAIK. 6 mostly happy yrs later, we marry. She goes on to get her PhD, I work to support her, commuting far and working long hours to help her realize her dream. While in school, meets a coworker, they hit it off, flirt, go out to lunch and bars and such, I noticed, confronted her again, she backs off, she assures me no PA, but I call it a definite EA. So, a year later, the EA starts back up and quickly progresses from flirting to going out to lunch and getting drinks to sexting and setting up a secure comm. I got suspicious and broke into her e-mail to find them planning how to communicate without me knowing. I confront her (yet again), she says she loves me and will do whatever do save the marriage, including therapy and MC, and I still love her, but this hurts so much, and it was once said, fool me once.... uh, won't get fooled again.
I doubt it is just and emotional affair, if you suspect otherwiser. Even if it is, it is still dangerous and emboldens the strayer to move onto a physical affair, the longer it goes on.
Why did I cheat again and lose my wife. I don't know. I couldn't control myself.