I have been married for 30 years during which time my wife and I have had many ups and downs. 2 college graduate boys and a sixteen year old junior in high school. In May of this year my wife was contacted by a mutual friend we both knew from high school and we both met him to catch up. Turns out they had been in contact before and since then have been emailing, texting and talking on the phone hundreds of times during the past 8 months. In August my wife sent me an email saying that she wanted a divorce but we couldn't afford to move out until after the first of 2013. She then told me in November that she wanted to spend a few days alone to get herself ready to start her first job in 15 years. I had always trusted her and didn't question he plans. Early this month my son found a love letter email on the computer from this old high school friend. She told me they were in love and in her mind we had been legally separated since August and she was free to do whatever she wanted. I went a little nuts and she immediately moved out and I filed for divorce last week. I have since found her password to her email and have found hundreds of their communications to each other over the past year. I am absolutely sick about it but I can't stop reading how they planned this whole thing out. Sorry for babbling and I hope I can get some good advice here.