I have been married to my wife for 8 years. We have 4 beautiful kids. However, a week and a half ago, my wife told me that she is confused and has fallen out of love with me. I was devastated to hear that statement because she means the world to me. I believe I am mostly at fault because I have neglected her for basically the past year. I was busy with my job and I had different priorities. I did not pay as much attention to her as I should have. I was also very negative about things due to the fact that I am competitive and wanted the best for the kids both academically and athletically. I have scheduled marriage counseling and want it to work out. However, I do not know how she wants it to work anymore. She would never cheat on me because she was cheated on in her first marriage. Over the past month, she has been talking and texting with an old friend from high school. He does not live in the area, but she plans on visiting some friends in the same that he lives (so she will probably see him). My theory is that she has developed a friendship with him, and he is feeding into that. He has swooped in at the right time. I believe that this "relationship" is possibly preventing her from being able to get her feelings back for me. I have changed for the good over the last couple of weeks (acknowledged by her), but I think I may be too late. I have read a couple of e-mails from my wife to him and she has said that her "head is spinning" from her chats with him. She also stated that she cannot promise anything but would let "the road lead them where it takes them". I am scared and lonely. I want the marriage to work. What can I do? I have never been a jealous husband, but something is different here. I feel that if I tell her to stop talking to him or tell her to not visit her friends, she will get upset. I am trying to rebuild the relationship by being the "old husband". I am doing a good job of that, but I do not know if it going to work if her heart is not into it. Any advice would be helpful.