I actually would like another crack at a couple of old flames.
Not that I actually want to get back together with them or to ride off into the sunset with them or anything, I'll let their husbands take care of that.
Both are from when I was 20ish and not very experienced. One was an actual GF that I was in love with and was fantasizing of a future with. We dated seriously for about a year and a half (which is almost a lifetime when you're 20 and she was all that. She got into the party scene and ended up cheating on me with probably a number of dudes and then dumped me cold. Yes I was very angry with her and thought she was a skank and wanted nothing to do with her for many years.
The other was a hot and horny blond bombshell that was a "friend" and for which I was a beta orbiter for months while she had me in the friendzone while she hooked up with cooler and studlier guys. Then one night she tried to set me up with one of her girlfriends and once she saw the girlfriend giving me the googlely eyes she ended up taking me to her bedroom after the other gal went home.
That was pretty awkward and uncomfortable for the both of us and while she made a couple other invitations, when push came to shove (no pun intended) she just wasn't feel'n it and sent me back to the friendzone and then she packed up and moved out of state and I haven't seen her since although we are on social media and do talk occasionally.
So why do I want a rematch with these two, especially since they were both quite dysfunctional and unhealthy relationships you ask???
The answer is because I did not get them off or satisfy them at the time. They both had a thang for me and I believe at the time that their desire was sincere,,,,, but I failed to deliver. Now I don't mean I had ED or PE or anything. I mean I did not have the skillz or the dominance or the mojo to please them in the manner that they wanted/needed. I was young, naive, inexperienced and very beta with both of them. In short they dumped me because I wasn't good enough in bed for them at the time. They knew they could do better.
And to be fair, they were relatively inexperienced themselves and either didn't know or couldn't/wouldn't articulate what they did want/need even if I had asked.
But I think deep down, we had the basic foundation of attraction, desire and chemistry that we should have been great together, but I was not able to deliver and was not able to please or satisfy them when I had that opportunity at that time.
I think that if we could get together now that each of us has a lifetimes worth of skillz and experience and confidence and communication skills that we could really ignite between the sheets and set the room on fire
So if either of those two were to contact me with a nudge nudge wink wink and even hint at some kind of rematch,,, well you get the idea.
( now I should mention that those two in particular were instances that I believe I
fell short and that I
bungled it and missed what could have been a good opportunity. There are others where it was great and a good time was had by all and those are very fond memories and memories that I would like to relive. But where I don't feel compelled to challenge for a rematch to make up for my failings)
So I guess where I am going with this is I am being very open and honest from the prior lover's point of view. I assume many men may feel similar if some old flame were to contact them after many years. They may not have any desire to actually get back together as an actual couple.
But I'm willing to bet the farm that many a dude would either like a rematch to try to redeem himself or to relive some very fond memories and would be more than happy to roll out the red carpet to make it happen.