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I’m hoping I can gauge if it seems “strained” or “put on” when I’m there
This is a disaster waiting to happen.

Why is it hard for you to tell her no?
“No, I will not have my wife involved in softcore (or hard-core) porn. No I will not have my wife involved in sexual photo shoots. No I will not have my wife marketing her sexuality to the world.”
If that’s more important to her than you and her marriage, then she’s free to be a titty model or a porn star all she wants, but not as your wife.

Brother, there is no way this ends well. You have to stop it now. And if you can’t put a stop to this as her husband, you’re already ****ed because this will go down hill fast, and it will get a lot worse.
 

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Ok so I’ve spoken to the wife and her friend and as anticipated they were less than happy. They have spoken to the photographer and I’m “invited” to go along to the session with the wife and her friend and watch a shoot. So will see how bad it is and then decide how hard to stamp the foot down.
You already know how hard to stamp the foot down, you’re just struggling to do it.

And you don’t need to be “invited” anywhere, it’s your ****ing wife, who is taking off her clothes for other people and a camera.

This is ridiculous and you were soft and you caved. Your wife already thinks you’re weak and doesn’t respect you and now she thinks you’re even weaker. That’s why you’re in the situation in the first place.

Seriously, it doesn’t matter what you agreed to in the past what you “thought” you might be OK with, it doesn’t matter. You are not obligated to go along with this in any way at all. You need to tell her no. A hard no. No more of this modeling, at all, ever. Not maybe, not we’ll see. Not well maybe if you promise to go back and stay within the boundaries that you have already pushed.

NO. Unless she wants to end the marriage. And it doesn’t matter how she feels about it and it doesn’t matter how much validation she gets from the photographer telling her she’s hot or all the men jerking off to her, and it doesn’t matter how much money she can make. You’re her husband, you set the standards for what you will accept in your marriage.

The only way you maybe survive without this thing eating you and spitting you out later, is to take control, regardless of her manipulation or anger or crying or whatever, and shut this whole thing down now.
 

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WHo cares if it's ok when you go -- they are grooming her to get naked (which she has already done) and MUCH WORSE. IF YOU are ok with her getting into the sex trade, then go ahead.
I think you are playing with fire -- as in a HUGE disaster for your marriage.
I agree with others -- shut this down NOW -- and have her "boot" that other friend. I bet SHE has TONS of MUCH WORSE than showing boobs pics/videos by now.
 

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Ok so I’ve spoken to the wife and her friend and as anticipated they were less than happy. They have spoken to the photographer and I’m “invited” to go along to the session with the wife and her friend and watch a shoot. So will see how bad it is and then decide how hard to stamp the foot down.
Less than happy about what?? It's just pictures right? Nothing shady right? What's there for them to not be happy about?

Still doesn't address why she needs to do this. You even said it's stuff she wouldn't do for you but she's doing it for a stranger's money. Doesn't that mean anything to you?

Seriously man, stop and consider this for a moment. You think this is ok, but you have heard from at least 30 people that disagree. Look at the math on that. There's a lot of experience on this site. Don't disregard it, nobody on this thread has been saying anything over the top, it's all very real advice. 30 people telling you the damn stove is hot, but you still want to put your hand on it.

If you do go I'd bet there will be someone taking pictures of you standing off to the side while your wife's bodyparts are hanging out. You'll be in her next photo set but not in a good light.
 

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You know sometimes I look at how the OP responds to really good advice, sigh and think “oh, man well at least people tried”.

Good luck to you but I don’t think it is going to end well. Your wife already puts getting her kit off above your marriage. Doesn’t that tell you something? Why would you want to be with a person like that?
 

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The whole thing reeks. Your wife and her friend are very likely banging random dudes at the “photo shoots” and filming it and selling the crap. Who is paying good money for this kind of nonsense?. Nobody but the porn industry. You should nix this crap if only out of the totally legitimate fear that your wife is going to disappear and become a sex slave in some sex trafficking ring.
your wife is playing with fire. For you not to stop it shows a lot about you. And for you to describe it as “hot”??????
Dude, really? What’s hot about your wife undressing for other men for money???????
It’s dangerous, trashy, ridiculous, and sure to end as a gigantic train wreck. But have it your way. “Investigate”. SMH
 

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He seems... OK.

For now.

Later, I suspect, not OK.

The paid and nude modeling he is good with.

He can be excitedly bought.
Just as his wife, is.

Soon, not too long, she will do more nude modeling to some cute guy.

Or maybe, a rich guy who needs a willing gal for his private parties.
Yes, the rich guy will pay.

All, at the cost of your marriage. A side job as a hot wife, may be irresistible for her, down the line.
Old, and boring you will be left holding the bag.

The little bag that hold your (out and in the cold) testes.
 

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I’m hoping I can gauge if it seems “strained” or “put on” when I’m there
Uh, yeah...

Wasted time and finger clicks...

They will do the vanilla shoots while you are present.

The bone in the ham will be shot when you are absent.
 
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well, if she is paid a lot more and your sexual life has improved massively... :cool:
Umm.

Those pluses are nice while they last.

Somewhere down that twisty, racy road, OP will find himself in last place.

Last, alone, alas; no wife, no sex.

She still doing the wet-grind and grinning, he having but dried-out, ground-to-dust tears.
 

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Has anyone pointed out that it's Spring Break for a lot of middle schools, high schools and colleges......
 

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Thats kind of what worries me, I was fine with just her in underwear posing. I thought her doing it was quite sexy and a bit of a turn on but she’s already let them photograph her in ways I would never have thought she’d have willingly done but she doesn’t see the things they’ve asked her to do as really that different.
I would be on set when done if you are allowing her to do this. Remember one story about wife hooking up with photographer. I would demand all photographs be sent to you. Is photographer female.
Maybe she gets off on knowing guys will be jerking off to her pictures. Many photos involve scenes with male model as well. I would call BS and say i want to see file with her name on it so see photo downloads, not shots they want you to see.
 

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It’s not so much “extras” as I feel that what she’s doing has changed and she feels it’s still what we agreed.

when she started they had her dress in lingerie outfits like for example a bra, panties, suspender belt and high heels. She’d pose in those in various poses then remove her bra and pose some more then at the end they’d have her pull her panties a bit to the side but as she was quite hairy I figured you couldn’t see much so it was ok and our sex life did improve a lot.

Then recently for example, they had her dress in just a nylon body stocking and high heels and do some poses in a big armchair, ending up with her with one leg over each arm which basically would leave everything exposed. They then offered her some extra cash to shave herself bare and then hold herself open a little in some more poses.

I feel this is different but she insists she is still just posing in lingerie and flashing her * a bit which I agreed to and found a bit of a thrill knowing she was doing that.
Thats what she tells you anaway.
 

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I was ok when it seemed “soft” and it was just nice undies then topless then a quick flash when you couldn’t really see much. Now the outfits and poses seem much more exposing to me but she claims she’s still just going as far as we agreed and showing the same “bits” to the camera.

we don’t have kids so that’s not an issue
Sex has upticked. So.eSo.eone on the set has brought out some sexual side of her she is getting off on. Do a photo search to find their porn site and search to find out if she has photos with other hod boy models in other poses. Just be a little bit and she will be into doing porn scenes with some guy or girl.
 

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Who are the photographer's clients? Is this "studio" in New York or LA? Read the tea leaves.
 

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Why would there be need to ask....so they will have a toned down shoot for you and go back to wild stuff when you are not around. Just show up no warning. Go to all of her shoots. She gets mad there is a problem...they are hiding things. Get copies of photos and do google search for the photos and then search the site that leads you to. You do not want to know what they are doing.
 
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