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Yep!! Some women have a knack for telling their SO's "it's not that big of a deal", "it's only about the money", or "he's just a guy friend of mine"...
And they don't get to decide what is a big deal for you are not. This is an abusive way to treat your spouse.
 

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It’s not so much “extras” as I feel that what she’s doing has changed and she feels it’s still what we agreed.

when she started they had her dress in lingerie outfits like for example a bra, panties, suspender belt and high heels. She’d pose in those in various poses then remove her bra and pose some more then at the end they’d have her pull her panties a bit to the side but as she was quite hairy I figured you couldn’t see much so it was ok and our sex life did improve a lot.

Then recently for example, they had her dress in just a nylon body stocking and high heels and do some poses in a big armchair, ending up with her with one leg over each arm which basically would leave everything exposed. They then offered her some extra cash to shave herself bare and then hold herself open a little in some more poses.

I feel this is different but she insists she is still just posing in lingerie and flashing her * a bit which I agreed to and found a bit of a thrill knowing she was doing that.
Ok yeah NO F*CKING way would I put up with this.
You realize this is grooming her to be more comfortable with even MORE porn-like pics, don't you?
Of course I wouldn't have been ok with even the lingerie part.

Are you ok with your wife showing off her privates to the guys taking the pics AND whereever these pics are winding up? Those aren't catalog type stuff..
 

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I was ok when it seemed “soft” and it was just nice undies then topless then a quick flash when you couldn’t really see much. Now the outfits and poses seem much more exposing to me but she claims she’s still just going as far as we agreed and showing the same “bits” to the camera.

we don’t have kids so that’s not an issue
You ok with your/her parents seeing these pics? How about your buddies -- ok for them to see your wife nude?
 

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My wife has been doing some lingerie modelling to earn a little extra cash, I was really surprised when she told me that her friend had been doing it and she would like to try it and make some extra cash. My wife is not the most adventurous when it comes to sex etc so although at first I found the idea quite erotic I’m not sure how I feel about it now she’s been doing it a while and has recently admitted that the poses she’s been doing lately have been a little bit “sexier” than just lingerie as they pay her more to be as she puts it, “A little more daring”. She swears no sex or other people are involved but some of the things she’s done she wouldn’t even consider if I asked her to do them. She insists she only poses solo wearing the things they give her to wear and posing the way they tell her and it’s just “posing”. I’m wondering what other husbands think. I was ok when I thought it was just lingerie but although she says it’s pretty much the same, I’m not sure I feel it is. Am I over reacting ?
Your wife is being enticed with money. See a problem here? I do. Money can make a person do just about anything. What are the boundaries? Have you set any?
 

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It’s not so much “extras” as I feel that what she’s doing has changed and she feels it’s still what we agreed.

when she started they had her dress in lingerie outfits like for example a bra, panties, suspender belt and high heels. She’d pose in those in various poses then remove her bra and pose some more then at the end they’d have her pull her panties a bit to the side but as she was quite hairy I figured you couldn’t see much so it was ok and our sex life did improve a lot.

Then recently for example, they had her dress in just a nylon body stocking and high heels and do some poses in a big armchair, ending up with her with one leg over each arm which basically would leave everything exposed. They then offered her some extra cash to shave herself bare and then hold herself open a little in some more poses.

I feel this is different but she insists she is still just posing in lingerie and flashing her * a bit which I agreed to and found a bit of a thrill knowing she was doing that.
Great. Soft core porn. Hard no from me if it was my wife.
 

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I was ok when it seemed “soft” and it was just nice undies then topless then a quick flash when you couldn’t really see much. Now the outfits and poses seem much more exposing to me but she claims she’s still just going as far as we agreed and showing the same “bits” to the camera.

we don’t have kids so that’s not an issue
Would you like your wife to be gainfully employed going forward? Or would you like her potential employers to see these photos of her? Because they will. This is ridiculous. She's now in the sex trade.
 

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I think the fact OP has left the building says it all. He's not going to do anything. Maybe he'll be back later posting about his wife cheating and he'll probably still be wanting to know how he can fix it.
 

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Two kinds of men: guys that don’t want any person on the planet seeing their wife naked or looking at her in a lustful way, and those that get off on other men ogling and lusting for their wife.
I’m in the former category.

make no mistake, being surrounded by men that are paying for pictures of her naked are most definitely interested in banging her. They have money and she likes money. Apparently you don’t bring in enough, OP.

get ready for the ILYBINILWY speech. I’d give it two months or less before you get that one.
 

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I’d say there’s hope, for now. It’s still plausible that nothing more has happened YET.

OP, we’re trying to help you and we are looking out for your best interests. You need to take action immediately. Like now. You need to put an immediate stop to the modeling. Then investigate how far it actually went.

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Didn’t you have a father or older brother or buddies who told you never ever marry a stripper? Same kind of thing here, never let your wife get involved in ANY kind of porn/sexual modeling.
Wait, maybe I should have asked, she wasn’t a stripper was she?
 

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Ok so I’ve spoken to the wife and her friend and as anticipated they were less than happy. They have spoken to the photographer and I’m “invited” to go along to the session with the wife and her friend and watch a shoot. So will see how bad it is and then decide how hard to stamp the foot down.
 
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