I’d say there’s hope, for now. It’s still plausible that nothing more has happened YET.
OP, we’re trying to help you and we are looking out for your best interests. You need to take action immediately. Like now. You need to put an immediate stop to the modeling. Then investigate how far it actually went.
Yeah but like you said he has to do something now! But even then there's the question of why she was ok with this in the first place? Why was she doing things for a stranger's money that she wouldn't do for her husband?
I mentioned in a red flags post that one of the red flags I missed was not looking at who her friends were. I think he's committed the same sin.
I was ok when it seemed “soft” and it was just nice undies then topless then a quick flash when you couldn’t really see much. Now the outfits and poses seem much more exposing to me but she claims she’s still just going as far as we agreed and showing the same “bits” to the camera.
And herein lies the rabbit hole. Notice how they keep pushing for more, and she keeps giving? If it were me, I would have said hell no as I am not one to share my wife. You need to start asking yourself where this road is leading to, because from my viewpoint it's nowhere good.
Doesn’t matter how she sees them, you’re not ok with it. (Also, she understands the difference perfectly well, she’s just rationalizing and gaslighting you).
Yep!! Some women have a knack for telling their SO's "it's not that big of a deal", "it's only about the money", or "he's just a guy friend of mine"...
Well, I will bet you $100 she has already been coaxed into doing the horizontal mamba with one of her patrons. You sir a foolish if you believe she has not crossed that line.
Well, I will bet you $100 she has already been coaxed into doing the horizontal mamba with one of her patrons. You sir a foolish if you believe she has not crossed that line.
Apparently OP is likely gonna be all for seeing his wife get banged by another dude. He’ll claim it’s”hot” and their sex life is the beat ever for a little while. Then disappears. Thea she’s gone.
Very often the first step to recruiting a new sex worker to groom is to have another woman "friend" pull them in. Use common sense. We're in the age of the internet when anyone can see full on porn for free. So who is going to be paying to just see someone dressed sexy? This is dangerous. Instead of finding it titillating, you need to take a stand on this before she ends up in some foreign country as somebody's slave. Or on her back in a cheap motel.
Let's say they are actually just putting her in sexy lingerie and have the rights to her photos. At a minimum if that was a legit deal, expect to see your wife being used on strip club billboards or on Craigslist as the fake prostitute photo. There's no way this isn't sex work.
This reminds me of that crazy Pastor women who became a Only Friends model, that is very clearly a women with bipolar disorder or some other mental illness. I suspect this is beginning of sever manic episode. You can see it in her eyes. Bet her husband was afraid to tell her to cut her **** out at first too, I am sure he was the nice guy passive type. I would have been telling her to cut her **** out when she was talking about becoming a pastor. You just can't be nice with some people it just doesn't work. Consequences is the only thing that will.
That women in the article will be dead of an overdose in 10 years, just watch.
OP your wife is going down the very same path.
One more time, you better get strong one way or another you will either have to confront her hard and put an end to this, and if not leave, or you will have to deal with the aftermath of the destruction she is going to cause in your life. Either way you won't be able to be passive anymore because the **** is coming and your wife is shoveling it.
It’s not so much “extras” as I feel that what she’s doing has changed and she feels it’s still what we agreed.
when she started they had her dress in lingerie outfits like for example a bra, panties, suspender belt and high heels. She’d pose in those in various poses then remove her bra and pose some more then at the end they’d have her pull her panties a bit to the side but as she was quite hairy I figured you couldn’t see much so it was ok and our sex life did improve a lot.
Then recently for example, they had her dress in just a nylon body stocking and high heels and do some poses in a big armchair, ending up with her with one leg over each arm which basically would leave everything exposed. They then offered her some extra cash to shave herself bare and then hold herself open a little in some more poses.
I feel this is different but she insists she is still just posing in lingerie and flashing her * a bit which I agreed to and found a bit of a thrill knowing she was doing that.
This is a recipe for disaster - but I thought that at the outset without you getting to the part about more exposure of genitals etc. But as someone already said, to each their own! What is the modelling for ? Where do the pictures actually end up? In a porn magazine (those are a thing of the past)? On the internet? Do you have kids and what if they see them?
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