I just was recently married June 2nd to an older woman shes 28 i am 25(almost). At this point i do not know who to turn to. If i talk to her about things i do not like she gets mad and says what are you doing with me if i am such a horrible wife. So one of he main issues is she constantly is telling me "baby dont ever cheat on me, baby never hurt, baby are you cheating on me" on an almost daily basis. If i am late at all form work anything beyond 15 min shes calling texting and asking where i am am i cheating on her. I had a new colleague start working with me and shes pretty but really nothing special. So of course the question comes up i said yeah shes pretty and she gets mad and jealous. I talked about running for exercise and doing marathons at work and the new girl told me her and her bf do together. I thought that would be a great idea for me and my wife to try. Immediately she asked why do you want me to run with you who runs at work oh why dont you go run with the new girl. i just do not know what to do to make her understand i wont cheat on her; i have no desire to see anyone else let alone be with anyone else. I left my family friends an awesome workplace and opportunity in MA to move to be with her in PA where she is tied to because of her first husband with whom she has a 4 yr old. I work M W F 9-7 sat and sun 9-330 and school 8-5 during the week. i cook i clean i do laundry i help with the little one as any good parent should i vacuum i do dishes yard work ect ect ect. the other day i made it a point to drive across town to see her at her work on my lunch break and bring her her favorite coffee. she lovedddd it. tonight she was saying how she had a headache the last two days and doesnt feel good so i was looking up flowers to send her on the computer and she came down stairs. she asked for the laptop and i said no then panicked and restarted it so she wouldnt see me trying to place the order. i understand that could look suspicious i really do but even if i told her the truth she would not believe me. Nothing else i have ever done has warranted any suspicious mainly because i have nothing at all to hide. i dont go out to the bars or clubs, hell i dont even go to the gym.. i tried to go early a.m before work and she go mad at me going all the time.
Sorry if this is too long of a post just getting everything off my chest, (newbie to here).
I also really love cars. I have a nice car that i like to do little modifications to here and there and keep it clean. If i go outside to do anything to it she gets mad and rolls her eyes and is like oh my good you really need to do that now. average i clean it once every week or two. Only other hobby of mine is football. I watch it on sunday and i like to have a friend over with me. She got mad because he came over i wouldnt ride with her, leave him, drive across town to her ex's with her to pick up her son. i dont do this every sunday nor is it feasible with my schedule.
Can someone please help? or help me see the perspective from her i am not seeing? i feeling like i gave up everything to start a new life out here and i do all i can around the house plus work and school and it is never enough. if i dont go to bed with her and stay up late to study or watch tv downstairs she says she feels like shes doesnt have a husband. She told me yesterday she feels like i dont love her and/or not as much as she loves me. I leave her little comments on fb telling her i love her i send txt messages and leave i love u messages on her calender but it never seems to be enough.... HELPPPP!
Sorry if this is too long of a post just getting everything off my chest, (newbie to here).
I also really love cars. I have a nice car that i like to do little modifications to here and there and keep it clean. If i go outside to do anything to it she gets mad and rolls her eyes and is like oh my good you really need to do that now. average i clean it once every week or two. Only other hobby of mine is football. I watch it on sunday and i like to have a friend over with me. She got mad because he came over i wouldnt ride with her, leave him, drive across town to her ex's with her to pick up her son. i dont do this every sunday nor is it feasible with my schedule.
Can someone please help? or help me see the perspective from her i am not seeing? i feeling like i gave up everything to start a new life out here and i do all i can around the house plus work and school and it is never enough. if i dont go to bed with her and stay up late to study or watch tv downstairs she says she feels like shes doesnt have a husband. She told me yesterday she feels like i dont love her and/or not as much as she loves me. I leave her little comments on fb telling her i love her i send txt messages and leave i love u messages on her calender but it never seems to be enough.... HELPPPP!