Here's my story. I am an active duty military person. I moved from Georgia to Arizona in Jan of 2012. My wife and three step kids (we have been married for 8 years) stayed behind-my step kids are in high school and wanted to finish in georgia. Also, our marriage at the time was struggling. Anyway, my wife came to AZ for a week in june to start court proceedings to have her ex's parental rights stripped. It was a great week. We had great sex (1st for me in over a year and a half). She goes back to GA and i find out a short time later she was in the middle of an affair when she came out to AZ. She was texting him naked pictures of herself while she was here. She had my kids stay the night with friends the first night back so he could come over and have sex with her in my bed in my house. Oh, he lives 500 miles away in Virginia!!! Over the three month affair he made 15-16 trips!!!! She took my oldest daughter to VA to see him 'to do a tour of William and Mary'. They stayed in his house for three nights. She would sneek into his bedroom at night to have sex. (Very angry). Anyway, i found out through the phone records-hundreds of phone calls and thousands of texts. Confronted her and she admitted it. Lots of pain...short story is she decided to move to AZ to be with me and work on marriage...or so she said. She came out here and has been nothing but a ***** the whole time. Told me she never wanted to come here, hates it here, etc. Also, she told me she was going to tell me about the affair, but AFTER i adopted my step kids!!! Also, in the six weeks she has been here we have had sex 4 times-at my asking. She hasn't initiated once. Just lays there. No effort at all. I told her we needed joint counceling and made an appointment on a saturday and she got pissed because 'it took time away from her spending time with her girls'. Even though she was spending alot of time screwing her boyfreind who lived 500 miles away. Oh, the guy she was doing is the grandfather (late 50's, she is mid 40's) of my youngest daugters best friend in GA. Also, her BEST freind just happens to be this guys daughter as well. I'm very angry and hurt, mainly by the fact that she came all the way out here and now is just punishing me for making her move. We have finally a counseling appointment this saturday, but i don't know how to approach it. I'm tired of being in a one way relationship with a selfish person. She wasn't always like this. Any advice on how to move forward?