My wife and I have been at odds for many years. FIghting about literally every topic one can think of. I am by no mean an angel, but I show my wife respect, do virtually everything she asks me to do, and I do try to be a great husband and dad. I sure I fall short on many things but she does too. I at least acknowledge my issues. However over last month things have been the worst they have ever been. Beginning of the month we started having major life arguments. One was over her being someplace that I thought she was to be but wasnt. Turns out I was wrong, I felt so bad I brought her an expensive "im sorry ring" which she didnt accept and got mad when I returned it (to be fair I left it in front of her for a week and it never moved). We kind of got past that, until my intuition told me something was off-she was staying at work late, dressing differently etc. My wrst fear confirmed when I found out she had been having an emotional affair with another married man. When I confronted her (as calm as possible) she told me to "leave her alone". Just earlier today we had a heart to heart and I asked her if she wanted to save this and if she felt remorse. She seemed to reluctantly say she was willing if things changed (duh) but with the remorse part she said she felt justified. When we were dating 10 years ago, we were very much off and on and basically had separate lives (even though we lived together). During on of our off moments I took a trip with a childhood friend and we wound up hooking up. Before this trip even took place, I had put her out of my apartment and even told her lets break up. so we werent even together when she alleges me cheating. We eventually reconciled and had two beautiful kids together. Now this happened and she feels justified. My question is why the **** did you get married and have two kids with me? She seems to have no remorse and that is what hurts the most.