Self reflection is fine. All of us dudes should work towards self improvement. But in your case you trusted too much, and the person you trusted was a woman of low moral character. That's it. You can't blame yourself for her being rotten. She was that way before you married her.Agree ^^^^^ Somewhere inside these 1,500+ posts in this thread someone recommended the Married Man's Sex Life Primer. While it is horribly named and a little tough to read at times given some of the explicit sex stuff, I believe it should be required reading for EVERY YOUNG MALE in the entire world before they're allowed to start dating in earnest, certainly before they're allowed to marry. That book reads like the story of everything I did wrong in my relationship with my XW. I don't think my XW is broken. I think she's incredibly selfish. But I also know that I played a part in setting the context for what happened.