My fiance and I are getting married in a few weeks. When we moved in together about a year ago, he cut all ties with a female friend that stayed in contact with him through email and a once a year at the most dinner/get together. Even if they never spoke about it directly, I know that he believed she had some feelings for him. She never did anything aggressive to pursue him, only initiating the contact with him. He did stay in touch too, responding occasionally, but he also never told her of our relationship and how her contact was no longer appropriate until we moved in together. He hinted, but it was too subtle without all the other information he chose not to share directly.
She found out about our engagement and sent him a short note congratulating him. He responded, very brief, but I don't believe he should have.
I do think he loves me. My concern is that she has had a hard time letting go, and responding at all may open the door for communication to begin again on her part. I don't really understand why he responded at all - if he doesn't wish to remain friendly, or tell her about his engagement/relationship, why would he want to remain in contact with her at all? It would be inappropriate after our marriage, whether or not she was in a relationship as well.
Am I overreacting? What was he thinking?
She found out about our engagement and sent him a short note congratulating him. He responded, very brief, but I don't believe he should have.
I do think he loves me. My concern is that she has had a hard time letting go, and responding at all may open the door for communication to begin again on her part. I don't really understand why he responded at all - if he doesn't wish to remain friendly, or tell her about his engagement/relationship, why would he want to remain in contact with her at all? It would be inappropriate after our marriage, whether or not she was in a relationship as well.
Am I overreacting? What was he thinking?