[Blondilocks]

My guess is they value what else the wife provides. Security, sense of belonging, housekeeper, social life, whatever. There are a lot of men who have never been on their own and don't know how to navigate life on their own.

 

[Blondilocks]

You are all wrong.
The question is wrong.
Whenever you see a situation that doesn't match your perception of life. You automatically go to because he is simply ****ed up. That's not even trying to understand.
If we want to talk about sexual dysfunction you have to start with the person who selects for it.
Not with the person who is driven into it.
A problem with that is that (and I'm truly coming to believe this) sometimes both parties are driven into it.

A person who chooses to remain in a sexually unfulfilling marriage is selecting for it.

 

[Blondilocks]

What are you protecting by pushing the blame in this illogical direction?

What are you talking about?

 

[Blondilocks]

Because he has this vague belief that somehow marriage provides some sort of benefits that cannot be achieved any other way.

Apparently it does, or men wouldn't be complaining about the loss of their lifestyle if they were to divorce. I guess some men prefer to live in a house rather than rent a studio apartment.

 

[Blondilocks]

Thinking you can control another person in such a way that they will love you unconditionally and never even think about leaving you is a delusion.

I think I've identified your problem. If you want unconditional love, get a dog. Even then, the dog will expect to be fed and petted. Sorry, Peter Pan.