OP, the best way for you to put this dumpster fire out is just to simply get your personal affairs sorted and lawyer up.
Then, have her served hard and cold.
That'll harsh her buzz, and who knows what she'll want to do then.
However if you are smart, you'll just go ahead and stick the proverbial fork in it.
You screwed up, I'm not going to defend you.
However, your situation was somewhat limited in scope (EA), and you pulled it in before it went over the top.
Your spouse would have been correct and justified to divorce you, or exercise the other option of working through it.
Instead, she went scorched earth to a full blown affair, purely for spite, and bragged about it to others.
That speaks to the kind of person she is, and frankly, you should want better for yourself.
It sounds inevitable that the two of you are going to end up divorced anyway, because neither of you appear to have the skill set to constructively deal with the rigors of trauma, and instead transform it to drama. In your own best interests, just make it stop, for good.
Then, have her served hard and cold.
That'll harsh her buzz, and who knows what she'll want to do then.
However if you are smart, you'll just go ahead and stick the proverbial fork in it.
You screwed up, I'm not going to defend you.
However, your situation was somewhat limited in scope (EA), and you pulled it in before it went over the top.
Your spouse would have been correct and justified to divorce you, or exercise the other option of working through it.
Instead, she went scorched earth to a full blown affair, purely for spite, and bragged about it to others.
That speaks to the kind of person she is, and frankly, you should want better for yourself.
It sounds inevitable that the two of you are going to end up divorced anyway, because neither of you appear to have the skill set to constructively deal with the rigors of trauma, and instead transform it to drama. In your own best interests, just make it stop, for good.
