[CraigBesuden]

You cheated first, so I guess she figures she doesn't even have to play by your rules anymore.

OP’s actions converted the closed marriage into an open marriage. There was no longer a monogamous marriage upon which to cheat.

EDIT: I suspect that she knew all along that you were secretly meeting with this flirtatious woman. She felt certain that you were having an affair with her. She had a revenge affair. She told you first to hurt you.

 

[CraigBesuden]

Wait…

You had an affair with a woman from a site who understood the relationship between you and your late father?

Your wife had her affair after the death of her father?

Did you both lose your fathers around the same time?

 

[CraigBesuden]

You said “ one of the women”. Multiple. If you’re a serial cheater why do you care what your wife does? You didn’t care what you did to her.

He said that two of his wife’s friends, the women with whom his wife confided about her affair, slipped up and revealed that they knew.

 

[CraigBesuden]

I understand that my attention span and compression level are on par with a 10 year old but it would do a lot of people some good to actually read (and reread) what has been written….before posting.

I went back to find where OP said he checked out of his marriage for 8 months and met with his AP 8 times. Still missed it.

 

[CraigBesuden]

Post #21; He met with his AP 8 times.

But in post 19, Snowbum was already responding to the information. Perhaps there are other posts in other forums that people are reading simultaneously?