Hello, I am very new to this forum, but have seen the support and compassion the members give each other when there are problems. I have been married 16 years, and together, my husband and I have pre-teen aged twins, boy and girl. Recently, I discovered a prepaid phone in his car, and upon searching, I found phone numbers to and from that were escort services. There were 3 particular dates; 2 of the dates, my kids and I were visiting my parents in a different state, and the 3rd date was when he 'needed' to go to our vacation home 4 hours away. Also, I discovered a Visa he had in his name only (it was ours, but he told me he closed it 6 months ago). On the Visa bills were many payments to porn sites....most were 'live web cams' (I know nothing of these type of sites). Also, I found through bank records that he withdrew $1,000 on those 3 dates. I'm so hurt, I don't know what to do. Right now, I have no desire to get marital counseling, especially since he is denying everything. Oh yeah, he said he was tempted, but did not follow through. In every forum I have read, the spouse has said the same thing. There is more to this situation including control issues, emotional abuse, and the fact that I made a mistake 4 years ago (not what you are thinking). I can go into that if I receive any interest in my thread. I just can't figure out why.....I am pretty, smart, successful, good body, and wonderful personality. I'm not trying to brag, but just want to send the message that I work hard to 'keep up appearances', so to speak. I just can't figure this out. Help?