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I know there are some users on this forum that say they have sex daily. After being married for so long, WHY would you want to have sex with the same person so much?

It gets old after awhile. I consider myself having a high sex drive, but I wouldn't like having that much sex with my wife. If it was possible to have some variety and sex with different girls daily, then yes I can see that.

I like to watch some porn sometimes over sex with my wife to fill that variety need. Then again, her desire is low and she doesn't mind. Three times a week is what we average. Sometimes I see sex as a chore and just want the quick fix.

So really, why have daily sex with the same person for years?
 

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I know there are some users on this forum that say they have sex daily. After being married for so long, WHY would you want to have sex with the same person so much?

It gets old after awhile. I consider myself having a high sex drive, but I wouldn't like having that much sex with my wife. If it was possible to have some variety and sex with different girls daily, then yes I can see that.

I like to watch some porn sometimes over sex with my wife to fill that variety need. Then again, her desire is low and she doesn't mind. Three times a week is what we average. Sometimes I see sex as a chore and just want the quick fix.

So really, why have daily sex with the same person for years?
If you have to ask, you don't get it....We have been married 47 years and have been averaging 3 times a week...For the first 25 years we did id a LOT......Dont even ask.......

How can something with the infinite variations and subtlety of sex become boring????

How long is a typical session? If your answer is less than an hour you are not doing it right....Slow down and enjoy the gift she gives you each and every time....Savor the moment....The quickie has it's place, but why eat only appetizers and ignore the feast....
 

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Sex is what you make of it. Only had sex with one man in my life and in 31 years we still have sex as often as the soldier can solute and when he is lazy we do 69 or bj. We have lots of toys and visit the adult toy store when ever we get to Indy. Boring is the last thing I would call our love life...we conciously put a lot of effort and romance into our everyday lives ...it's worth it!
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In my mind I used 'think' I wanted sex everyday... but what i really want is some close intimate time.. naked if possible :D

This time together fills me up and makes me feel loved. We don't always have sex (we average 2-5 times a week) but we certainly connect/bond.

It might be in bed before we go to sleep or we might have a shower together, washing and drying each other...maybe oiling each other up...which usually leads to other things! Or sometimes it's just a loooooong 'cuggle' on the sofa during the evening.

It's the connection I want and i want THAT everyday... sex is just the cherry on the top.

We've been together for 26 years...can't say I've been bored having sex with my H yet. Sometimes are better than others but bored?? :scratchhead:
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I think my husband is simply amazing and therefore I look forward to being with him even after 21 years of marriage.

He likes variety too but that's easily addressed. Different places, different positions, different outfits, different hairstyles, different moods, etc. Unlimited possibilities and combinations. It's never boring.
 

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Everyone is different. Not everyone looks at sex the same way you do.

It's that simple.
 

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I know there are some users on this forum that say they have sex daily. After being married for so long, WHY would you want to have sex with the same person so much?

It gets old after awhile. I consider myself having a high sex drive, but I wouldn't like having that much sex with my wife. If it was possible to have some variety and sex with different girls daily, then yes I can see that.

I like to watch some porn sometimes over sex with my wife to fill that variety need. Then again, her desire is low and she doesn't mind. Three times a week is what we average. Sometimes I see sex as a chore and just want the quick fix.

So really, why have daily sex with the same person for years?
Because you're in love with that person and therefore it never gets old.
 

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I think my husband is simply amazing and therefore I look forward to being with him even after 21 years of marriage.

He likes variety too but that's easily addressed. Different places, different positions, different outfits, different hairstyles, different moods, etc. Unlimited possibilities and combinations. It's never boring.
This is the sort of post that keeps me coming back here. I would have loved a relationship like this with the ex but it wasn't to be. It is the positive role models here that give me hope that what I want in life is possible with the right partner.
 

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I know there are some users on this forum that say they have sex daily. After being married for so long, WHY would you want to have sex with the same person so much?

It gets old after awhile. I consider myself having a high sex drive, but I wouldn't like having that much sex with my wife. If it was possible to have some variety and sex with different girls daily, then yes I can see that.

I like to watch some porn sometimes over sex with my wife to fill that variety need. Then again, her desire is low and she doesn't mind. Three times a week is what we average. Sometimes I see sex as a chore and just want the quick fix.

So really, why have daily sex with the same person for years?
If you have to ask, then why did you even get married? As another poster pointed out, I've seen a lot of your posts.... really, this doesn't surprise me... :rolleyes:

But to answer your question: Because I love my husband. Because I can't imagine NOT wanting him, his touch. And the thought of either of us choosing porn over sex with each other makes me sick to my stomach. I can't imagine someone who actually LOVES his or her spouse choosing that over sex with their spouse.
 

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You choose porn over sex with your wife?

Sounds to me like you are missing a fundamental emotional connection with your wife.

My wife and I have sex every morning, every night as a rule. And fit in one during the day too sometimes. Sex reinforces the deep bond we have. It starts our day off with an emotional connection that helps us navigate what can be a rollercoaster ride all day due to family issues, and ends our day with the reassurance that we are still there for each other, still committed to each other and making time for each other.
Boring? Never.
If your sex life is boring, you aren't putting enough thought into keeping it alive and interesting.
It doesn't get old. It can be slow, fast, gentle, aggressive, different places/positions etc etc.

I know this will get me screamed down as the ultimate beta male, but my wife is the be-all and end-all, way up on that pedestal, centre of my world woman to me, so I can't imagine NOT having sex with her.

I cannot comprehend your statement that you sometimes see sex as a chore.
 

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The only time I ever had sex 1 - 4x each day was in my teens.......you can guess the rest.

But when I met my wife to be, got married, sex wasn't even close to that. At first 1 - 2x month, now maybe 1 - 3x week, be realistically, she is going back to her old ways, so 1x week now.

Sex once every day for me, would kill any daily stress I got from work and life and bond me to my wife in more ways than talking or reading a book could ever do!!!

Plus when having sex that often each week, its very physically healthy for us males, because it raises our testosterone levels among other things and reduces the chances of heart disease and attacks by up to 50%. Science behind that one.

And having sex every day doesn't have to be a 1 - 2 hour marathon. It could be quickies and the marathon sex on weekends when you don't work.

The only ones that don't think sex is important are the LD individuals.

To me, porn is only used when my wife isn't in the mood for 1+ weeks at a time. I am a man and can only go so long without sex and my release and no cuddling, talking or books can replace that.
 

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The only time I ever had sex 1 - 4x each day was in my teens.......you can guess the rest.

But when I met my wife to be, got married, sex wasn't even close to that. At first 1 - 2x month, now maybe 1 - 3x week, be realistically, she is going back to her old ways, so 1x week now.

Sex once every day for me, would kill any daily stress I got from work and life and bond me to my wife in more ways than talking or reading a book could ever do!!!

Plus when having sex that often each week, its very physically healthy for us males, because it raises our testosterone levels among other things and reduces the chances of heart disease and attacks by up to 50%. Science behind that one.

And having sex every day doesn't have to be a 1 - 2 hour marathon. It could be quickies and the marathon sex on weekends when you don't work.

The only ones that don't think sex is important are the LD individuals.

To me, porn is only used when my wife isn't in the mood for 1+ weeks at a time. I am a man and can only go so long without sex and my release and no cuddling, talking or books can replace that.
I'm glad you brought up the health benefits.....My wife has always enjoyed sex, and all her reproductive organs are still intact....While at least 3 of her 4 sisters have had surgery. I am a firm believer in use it or loose it....

It is also good for a mans prostate health......I recently had some eye problems, and the doc was thinking possible MS....Had brain scan and dopplar ultrasound of my neck arteries....They looked like fire hoses at full stream....Good arteries=good sex, and vice versa.....All that fun and healthy too.....:D
 

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It feels good every time, that's why. I've only ever had sex with my wife, so I honestly don't know for sure if it would be better with another woman or not, but I doubt there is all that much difference.

Now what I do really like is not worrying about HPV, HSV, or incurable gonorrhea.
 

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This one is too good to pass up so..... Because sex isn't always just sex. If you're with someone you love and who loves you back sex is a way communicate beyond what words can express. Sex can be a way for your spirits to mingle and feel as one. Can you get enough of that...........? (stopping now before I get depressed! lol)
 
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