You don't have to back off. Blunt is OK. I tend to be blunt too. On the internet I have difficulty reading & conveying tone.sorry, i will back off.
i do tend to be blunt sometimes.
I was saying my raw pain over this subject is making me highly sensitive & so the direct style is more jarring then it would be about a less emotional subject. I was trying to acknowledge my own bias here, not criticize you or the help you are offering.