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Well, Holland you mean, your hubby can go around sleeping with strippers, flirting with women, sleeping with hot girls and you are okay with it but you are not okay with him being emotionally connected with him to other women?

So SEX is open and hes free to do it

cool.

Great to see people like me
 

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Probably because men don't want to get stuck raising somebody else's bastard.
Well, THIS woman wants nothing to do with a man who would stick his penis in another woman when he's married to me. If my husband ever did that, he'd be out on his ass. And if I ever did started looking elsewhere, I'd be out as well. We were both able to forgive emotional infidelity, but no way are we going to let someone come between us again. Marriage, for us, is two people... not a village. In addition to that, I don't want to risk him bringing home some nastiness. No thanks!
 

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Men don't seem to have issues much. Nor they like to look victims. Its usually females." My husband had EA/PA and I am so hurt"
Leave and go if you are so damn HURT
 

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I don't. Then why do others?
Physical and emotional cheating are such big words.
You have to have self respect to be against cheating.

But if you are in an open marriage that is not cheating. So I find it very hard to take your post seriously. I think you are having us on.

This sounds like more bad juju.
 

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Maricha72, if marriage for you isnt a village, why did both of you cheat, EA?
If you want to know the answer, read my thread. It's all in there. But the short answer is selfish, stupid, severely lacking in coping skills, and lack of communication. All of which we have resolved and continue nurturing.
 

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Men don't seem to have issues much. Nor they like to look victims. Its usually females." My husband had EA/PA and I am so hurt"
Leave and go if you are so damn HURT
Have you actually read the posts by men whose wives have cheated? Go back to CWI and read them. Many have more issues with this than you seem to think.
 

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Men don't seem to have issues much. Nor they like to look victims. Its usually females." My husband had EA/PA and I am so hurt"
Leave and go if you are so damn HURT
More than half of the betrayed spouses here are men. So i guess you are wrong that it's usually females.
 

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Well, Holland you mean, your hubby can go around sleeping with strippers, flirting with women, sleeping with hot girls and you are okay with it but you are not okay with him being emotionally connected with him to other women?

So SEX is open and hes free to do it

cool.

Great to see people like me
Um no, how on earth did you read that into my reply?

I have no issue with him masturbating - plenty of people do have an issue with this.
Flirting - it turns me on to know other women find him attractive.
Porn - he is a big man, he can look at what he wants.
Strip clubs - again he can look at whatever he wants.

If he had an EA, PA or ONS then it would be a deal breaker.

No mate, I am not like you and am very happy with that because I am very happy with who I am.


Just saw the troll comment, damn I got sucked in.
 

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I don't. Then why do others?
Physical and emotional cheating are such big words.
There's a wild dog that runs around my neighborhood trying to hump every female dog in sight.
Being able to keep it in your pants exclusively for your mate is what separates us from animals...

that's why
 

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You're from the Latin American culture, aren't you?
What the heck does that got to do with anything? No no no dont let ignorant fools like this give us a bad name.








To the trollish OP. If you gotta cheat then do everyone a favor and stay single. If you feel like you have to go around sticking your dong in everything with a vagina and a pulse just to make yourself feel awesome... Your unworthy of a relationship in my opinion.

Most the posters in the CWI section of this forum are men. So your generalized and sexist statement is squashed. My current spouse was cheated on in a previous relationship. He despises it for much of the same reasons I do.

1. It shows massive disrespect to your spouse.
2. It makes the betrayed spouse think and feel as if every I love you, every kiss, every intimate moment was fake. After all if the wayward can easily replace the betrayed like that then it all must have not been real right? That feeling of being tossed aside and replaced is very hurtfil. It is a massive blow to ones self esteem and self worth.
3. There is the added hurt of being lead on and played for a fool by the wayward. Another blow to self esteem and self worth there.
4. Trust is then broken because the wayward has proven themselves unreliable and unworthy of trust by the sneaking, lies, ect.
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ah ok... Lol
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