Little back story, my wife and I have been together for 6 years married for almost 3. In June she told me she wanted a divorce and moved out the next day with no warning.
We started marriage counseling, and a couple of dates. Things seemed like they might get better but never did. I finally went no contact for just about a month. I broke down and called her, it was a real good conversation. We talked for about an hour about any and everything. She called me later that night crying, she asked "do you think I will ever be happy again?" I told her "I have no control over that only person that can make you happy is yourself." She came over two days later to talk in person. I brought up getting back together she stated that she loves me and will always have a place in her heart for me but... she doesn’t give 2nd chances. She blames my depression and coldness for the reason she left. I know I was in a very bad spot and was not myself I didn’t know how to get out of that rut.
I feel really bad for her she has lost an unhealthy amount of weight, her acne is getting bad. I have also heard that she misses me and has had 2nd thoughts about the divorce (still no paperwork has been filed.) But she is to stubborn to work on it?
She sent me a text message over the weekend asking if I was going to a mutual friend’s child’s birthday party and offered to give me a ride if I wanted to go.
She said the OM is not a factor no interest in him :scratchhead: said they had some conversations and he would ask why she wouldn’t come back to me after everything I have done for her. :scratchhead:
She also said that she starts a beauty school in a town 4 hours away. Ironically this is the same town the OM lives in... She said she is getting an apartment through the school (this is the closest location for this exact school.) She talked about going when we were together and I was against it. School is approximately 4 months long. She made a comment that she is taking things day by day. She said they day she graduates school is the day all this will hit her. I don’t understand that comment either.
All her stuff has been moved out of our house and her mail has been forwarded. I did get some more mail today. I sent her a text message stating that. It turned into conversation via text message for 1.5 hrs.
I dont know why but I still have hope for my marriage and would like to save it. I have been reading in this section recently and have seen some good advice.
Well thanks for reading my readers digest version of my separation.
I have two previous threads in different sections on here that can be used for further back story.
http://talkaboutmarriage.com/general-relationship-discussion/52572-please-please-please-dont-too-late.html
http://talkaboutmarriage.com/coping-infidelity/52936-wife-having-ea-cant-let-go.html
We started marriage counseling, and a couple of dates. Things seemed like they might get better but never did. I finally went no contact for just about a month. I broke down and called her, it was a real good conversation. We talked for about an hour about any and everything. She called me later that night crying, she asked "do you think I will ever be happy again?" I told her "I have no control over that only person that can make you happy is yourself." She came over two days later to talk in person. I brought up getting back together she stated that she loves me and will always have a place in her heart for me but... she doesn’t give 2nd chances. She blames my depression and coldness for the reason she left. I know I was in a very bad spot and was not myself I didn’t know how to get out of that rut.
I feel really bad for her she has lost an unhealthy amount of weight, her acne is getting bad. I have also heard that she misses me and has had 2nd thoughts about the divorce (still no paperwork has been filed.) But she is to stubborn to work on it?
She sent me a text message over the weekend asking if I was going to a mutual friend’s child’s birthday party and offered to give me a ride if I wanted to go.
She said the OM is not a factor no interest in him :scratchhead: said they had some conversations and he would ask why she wouldn’t come back to me after everything I have done for her. :scratchhead:
She also said that she starts a beauty school in a town 4 hours away. Ironically this is the same town the OM lives in... She said she is getting an apartment through the school (this is the closest location for this exact school.) She talked about going when we were together and I was against it. School is approximately 4 months long. She made a comment that she is taking things day by day. She said they day she graduates school is the day all this will hit her. I don’t understand that comment either.
All her stuff has been moved out of our house and her mail has been forwarded. I did get some more mail today. I sent her a text message stating that. It turned into conversation via text message for 1.5 hrs.
I dont know why but I still have hope for my marriage and would like to save it. I have been reading in this section recently and have seen some good advice.
Well thanks for reading my readers digest version of my separation.
I have two previous threads in different sections on here that can be used for further back story.
http://talkaboutmarriage.com/general-relationship-discussion/52572-please-please-please-dont-too-late.html
http://talkaboutmarriage.com/coping-infidelity/52936-wife-having-ea-cant-let-go.html