I have been married to my wife for 13 years now. We have a 10 year old son, and for the most part we have a good life. Although, my wife and I have had problems over the years in which, every time I try to communicate with her about any hard topic she shuts down, and goes into anger mode. She then becomes very verbally abusive, and starts yelling at me, informing me she wants a divorce, or telling me other hurtful comments - an example - You are not a man, you are a loser, you are worthless, etc. She tells that is the way she feels but, she make "you are" statements, and not "I feel like" statements. Over time I have learned she gets easily irritated typically the same times every month. Normally, when she gets angry I try to calm her down the best I can, or leave the room. Typically, the next day she pretends like nothing happened trying to kiss me, and whatnot. I admit there has been several times over the years where I responded to all her craziness in a negative way, and I admit I am wrong for doing so. When I first got into this relationship I felt like we were equals to a certain degree but, over time things have escalated, and now she has more control over my life than I am comfortable with. I have feel I made a big mistake by not setting any boundaries for fear of arguing with her, and hearing her verbal abuse. I let this woman walk all over me because I have a fear of hurting my son, and of being alone if I left. I don't believe she wants a divorce but, I don't think she really understands the power of her words, and the effect she is having on my mental and emotional well being. She does not know how to manage her emotions very effectively, and she always connects her behavior with whatever she thinks I did to her. I have told her several times there is no reason to verbally abuse me because she is angry, and unless she can communicate in a healthy way we will more than likely not be able to solve the many problems we face on a daily basis. My wife's inability to recognize the role she plays in all this is really hurting our marriage. I know I am not perfect, and I want to accommodate her needs any way I can. I schedule another appt for marriage therapy, and I have been told by my therapist that when she gets angry to walk away, and talk to her another time. The problem with that suggestion is when I speak with her again she still wants to yell, assassinate my character, and do the same thi g she did when I spoke to her the first time. I don't feel like ther has been any progress with the marriage therapy and I feel really defeated. All I ask of my wife is when she gets angry to manage her emotions in a healthy way. She is choosing not to do that, and I feel my only option is to move out, and go down the sad road of divorce. I grew up in a single parent household and this is worst fear. I would like to leave but, I keep holding on. Any suggestions?