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I realised something today. It sort of surprised me.
I think I understand why affairs with first loves and ex-spouses can happen.
I was in a fairly self-analytical frame of mind this morning whilst walking to work and I realised that I am still in love with almost all of my previous girl friends.
It's like that view you suddenly accidentally get of all the programmes you are running, or all the web tabs you have open when you make the wrong click on a multi-button mouse. When they all appeared like a 3-D layer of different images of each page or document. If you know what I mean.
The love I feel for them is not something I feel all the time, but it is still there, like a computer programme that is constantly running in the background.
If when I had been going through the heartache of my wife's affair and I'd met with at least one particular former girl friend and she had made an interest in rekindling our romance, would I have done so? I am afraid I probably might have. Speaking honestly about this.
So, when someone is going through a tough time with their spouse and an old love appears, I could see problems developing that could put the marriage at great risk.
Anyone else got any thoughts on this?
I think I understand why affairs with first loves and ex-spouses can happen.
I was in a fairly self-analytical frame of mind this morning whilst walking to work and I realised that I am still in love with almost all of my previous girl friends.
It's like that view you suddenly accidentally get of all the programmes you are running, or all the web tabs you have open when you make the wrong click on a multi-button mouse. When they all appeared like a 3-D layer of different images of each page or document. If you know what I mean.
The love I feel for them is not something I feel all the time, but it is still there, like a computer programme that is constantly running in the background.
If when I had been going through the heartache of my wife's affair and I'd met with at least one particular former girl friend and she had made an interest in rekindling our romance, would I have done so? I am afraid I probably might have. Speaking honestly about this.
So, when someone is going through a tough time with their spouse and an old love appears, I could see problems developing that could put the marriage at great risk.
Anyone else got any thoughts on this?