Who would you be pissed at?

Im totally lost!

I guess I should read your other threads..lol

To clarify....I was working at the bar on black wednesday. We had a bull in the back. I rode it before the general public could. But was seen by on of our regulars, who then made a comment to my husband about being brought to his knees by me riding. That same night a girl jumped a fence on our patio and broke her ankle (we found out later). She knew my husband was leaving so asked him to drop her off at home because she was in pain. The next day she found out that she broke her ankle and sent a facebook message to that affect and also gave him her phone number and told him to call her next time he went out.

While I know he being nice, since she was a friend of my coworker/friend. It bothers me that he chose to due this without telling me prior to leaving or right after (next day). Probably a lingering effect of his affair.

underwater2010 said:

To clarify....I was working at the bar on black wednesday. We had a bull in the back. I rode it before the general public could. But was seen by on of our regulars, who then made a comment to my husband about being brought to his knees by me riding. That same night a girl jumped a fence on our patio and broke her ankle (we found out later). She knew my husband was leaving so asked him to drop her off at home because she was in pain. The next day she found out that she broke her ankle and sent a facebook message to that affect and also gave him her phone number and told him to call her next time he went out.

While I know he being nice, since she was a friend of my coworker/friend. It bothers me that he chose to due this without telling me prior to leaving or right after (next day). Probably a lingering effect of his affair.

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Now that makes sense!!

Does he know you know that she messaged him with her number? He told you he took her home, but not til after, right?

Told me the next day after she sent the message about her foot being broken, but failed to mention that she also sent her phone number. It was all in the same message. I get all the email alerts in regards to his facebook account. The sad part of transparency.

I would be pissed at him for doing what he did while he is on thin ice and more so for being stupid enough to not tell you the whole truth about the content of the FB message when clearly he knows you will see the alert and the message. Here's where I get lost with men... are they really this stupid or just do it to aggravate us?

You think they would learn to tell the whole truth and nothing but the truth. Sadly, the always seem to ommit certian details. Sort of like a little kid that is afraid to get in trouble. Can't they ever learn that while we might be mad at the full truth, it pisses us off even more when they omit details.

God forbid I was to ever give a drunk customer a ride home. He would be seeing red. Which is why I never do it!!!

Grey Goose said:

Here's where I get lost with men... are they really this stupid or just do it to aggravate us?

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YES, YES.:iagree:

OP, he might have been scared that you would jump all over him for something he didn't solicit (her number). It's a natural dilemma.

However, he should know at this point that he's at full disclosure point with you - no exceptions. I'd put him on your watchlist. He LIED by omission. This was done deliberately. A man doesn't forget if some chick gives him her number (we don't, no matter the pretense).


I will also tell you, he has daydreamed about being with her. That's the other thing men do when almost ANY woman does such things (gives numbers, flirts, etc) - we visualize and run through scenarios/fantasies. This could be a fleeting 30 second thought that's discarded, or be the starting point of more exchanges. Don't beat him up for a momentary thought that he has flushed out of his brain, but be on guard.

underwater2010 said:

While I know he being nice, since she was a friend of my coworker/friend. It bothers me that he chose to due this without telling me prior to leaving or right after (next day). Probably a lingering effect of his affair.

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If it bothers you, you have to tell him, period. Doesn't matter what caused it. He should explain himself to you and if you ask him not to do it again, he should comply. This is part of the price that he has to pay for his crime.

BTW: He shouldn't have her as a FB friend. It doesn't matter if she is your friend or not.