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Well, I'm sorry to tell you this, but the ONLY way you can have any answers to your questions is to ASK HER, the woman you want to use it with.

I personally would NOT like a longer penis inside me, I openly talk about sex with my partner, and I welcome new sexual things and have a high drive. So I am not the right woman to advise you about your wife, because she is a separate person and like all other women, VERY different than ME.
Ok-thanks for the advice
 

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I have plenty experience with the question you ask. The issue is that you are trying to use it as a specific purpose tool to reach a solution. In my opinion this is very much the wrong idea. If you and your wife would enjoy trying such a thing you need to treat it as “something fun to try together” and absolutely nothing more. Having expectations of your wife when she experiences this ..... is a bad idea. On another note you should wait until your wife is ovulating the first time you try it. Another thing you should put out of your mind is depth ... I promise you she doesn’t want her cervix beat to death. Watching your wife swallow up one of these things can be exciting but you really should limit your expectations.

With that said I’m going to leave this right here:

Fantasy XTensions MEGA 1”

Have fun 🍆
 

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I have plenty experience with the question you ask. The issue is that you are trying to use it as a specific purpose tool to reach a solution. In my opinion this is very much the wrong idea. If you and your wife would enjoy trying such a thing you need to treat it as “something fun to try together” and absolutely nothing more. Having expectations of your wife when she experiences this ..... is a bad idea. On another note you should wait until your wife is ovulating the first time you try it. Another thing you should put out of your mind is depth ... I promise you she doesn’t want her cervix beat to death. Watching your wife swallow up one of these things can be exciting but you really should limit your expectations.

With that said I’m going to leave this right here:

Fantasy XTensions MEGA 1”

Have fun 🍆
Thanks. I’ll work on lower expectations and trying to have fun. Why during ovulation? I have one from love honey. Extra 1.5 to start slowly…
 

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Thanks. I’ll work on lower expectations and trying to have fun. Why during ovulation? I have one from love honey. Extra 1.5 to start slowly…
Because during ovulation her body is much more receptive to handling something large.
1. She is ovulating
2. Your flirting during the day
3. A drink or 2 .... her favorite
4. A hot shower together
5. A full body massage
6. Manual stimulation
7. Oral stimulation
8. Her favorite vibrator
9. Now she may be ready ......

This is a long game. If she isn’t comfortable then it’s a no go.

GIRTH BE THY NAME....... take your time
 

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We don’t talk about it during sex. That was harsh. Just trying to better our sex life. What else can I do? She doesn’t want to talk about it. So I ask for help here and get crap instead…can any other woman please respond? Looking for advice from someone helpful.
Look it might be harsh but you asked for women. Mostly you've got men answering.

My take it that's a lot of pressure to simultaneously orgasm with you. Frankly PIV sex doesn't do it for the majority of women. So helping her before or after is a better timing. I want orgasms but it took years for me to accept that this exact same time stuff was mostly in books and movies. I though something was wrong with me.

So mechanically, 'switching' during a build is almost a gaurantee she stops building at least for me. I need the right spot hit in the right way about 100 to 200 times. If you stop and then change the sensation well I have to start over. Or a ways back from where I was. Two nothing feels the same as a real penis. So an extender isn't necessarily gonna be the holy grail you think. But if you are going to use it. Start and finish with it.

Second try a vibrator during sex. I like the WeVibe but some prefer just a bullet. I don't like anything I have to think about and control. If my mind is worried about doing stuff during sex then I"m not orgasming. I need to lose thought and enjoy. Not be worried about moving or positioning the toy. Not am I going to orgasm when he does. Not if I don't orgasm is he going to be disappointed.

While making sure she gets her frequently is a good goal. THe point is don't make that some out sized focus or it just puts pressure on her to be a porn start and make us self concious.
 

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Thanks. I’ll work on lower expectations and trying to have fun. Why during ovulation? I have one from love honey. Extra 1.5 to start slowly…
So you already have an extender even though just 4 hours ago you asked if it would be a good idea. Seems like you already had your mind made up.

I feel like you are focusing on your wife's pleasure more for your benefit than for her benefit. That won't end well. You will be much better off being in the moment and enjoying it as much as possible while she does the same. I learned a long time ago that focusing too much on my wife's orgasm was counter productive. Sure I want to please her and of course she loves to orgasm, but focusing on it too much only seemed to make thing worse. The best sex seems to be when we just enjoy the moment and not think too much.

I don't think the extender is going to help you. Your wife does have orgasms, so why not focus on what has worked for her and do more of that or variations of that? I think you will have a much greater chance of success with that approach rather than randomly taking a shot with something new. You are just stabbing in the dark (sorry, had to go for the pun). As for the A-spot, in general you need at least 8" to hit it effectively in most cases. Then there is no guarantee your wife will respond better to stimulating that area vs her G-spot or clitoris. I guess if your wife is game, you can give it a shot, but don't expect it to work any miracles.
 

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If she has an orgasm using the womanizer it tells me a longer penis won't do anything for her.

Better focus on clitoral stimulation.

You might want to swing a longer penis from the chandelier, but it sounds like she's not interested in that. And that's ok, we are all different. Focus on what she likes.
 

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I'd have to agree with those saying - too much focus on her orgasm, from experience.

One of my past gf 'A' never, not once, had an orgasm. Yet she was always up for fun, always aroused, very bright eyed and satisfied with our sex life, always talked sex and flirted with me, and was very sad when we broke up.

Another of my past gf 'M' always, 100% had an orgasm with me - piv only nonetheless, never wanted fingers, oral, or toys.

Guess who was unsatisfied, and told me so?

During my efforts to take our sex life up another notch last year, I spent some time focused on my wife's O's; reading, talking, doing. After a week she told me in no uncertain terms - "lay off! "

Basically, she told me what I already knew from past experience - getting her to enjoy herself more was a worthy and appreciated goal (required exploration and effort on my part) but not pushing for orgasm. It's about the quality of the ride vs the destination for her. I suspect she's not alone in feeling that way.
 

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I'd have to agree with those saying - too much focus on her orgasm, from experience.

One of my past gf 'A' never, not once, had an orgasm. Yet she was always up for fun, always aroused, very bright eyed and satisfied with our sex life, always talked sex and flirted with me, and was very sad when we broke up.

Another of my past gf 'M' always, 100% had an orgasm with me - piv only nonetheless, never wanted fingers, oral, or toys.

Guess who was unsatisfied, and told me so?

During my efforts to take our sex life up another notch last year, I spent some time focused on my wife's O's; reading, talking, doing. After a week she told me in no uncertain terms - "lay off! "

Basically, she told me what I already knew from past experience - getting her to enjoy herself more was a worthy and appreciated goal (required exploration and effort on my part) but not pushing for orgasm. It's about the quality of the ride vs the destination for her. I suspect she's not alone in feeling that way.
All good advice. thank u.
 

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in addition to your penis in her, are you doing anything else in parallel?

Nipple clamps? Anal vibrators? Bondage, such as handcuffs, leg spreaders, ropes tying her to the bed?

She probabably just needs more and more intense stimulation....building to a crescendo.
 

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Good morning, I’ve put some tough questions out to the talk about marriage group in the past and you guys have always been very insightful and helped me. I think I have another idea to help my sex life with my wife but I wanted some other lady’s thoughts and experiences before I try it. My wife is very vanilla where I always want to be kinky in bed. She hates to talk about sex that’s why I love this forum to throw ideas out and get feedback before I actually attempt it. So the issue I’m going to throw out is it when my wife and I have sex, it usually builds for her for the first couple minutes and then instead of going to crescendo she tapers off and I finish. This sucks! I so badly want us to finish together or at least have her finish. I’ve offered many times to finish her off after intercourse but she always says no. We do engage in foreplay including me giving her oral sex, massaging her G spot and clit and sometimes a vibrator -Not all the time but when she allows. Like I said she’s not kinky. Now we have finished together maybe 25% of the time. I want her to enjoy it more than that. I get off on her enjoying what we do together. We do missionary position 95% of the time because that’s what she wants and that’s what she says feels good to her. My thought is once things start to flatline for her, to put on a penis extender? I’m hoping it would ramp up the friction and how deep it penetrates her. I’m an average guy. I’ve suggested the use of larger things to my wife in the past and she just doesn’t seem interested. What are your thoughts? Do you think this is something that would work? I would think we should engage in intercourse first to make sure she’s opened up adequately so that the larger size wouldn’t hurt. I just can’t see a downside of this from my perspective. Any information would be helpful!
Hell, I thought this was about extension ladders. I was getting revved up. Damn
 
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For what it's worth, I've never had women friends of mine tell me they wanted a longer one. Some of them wanted more girth. A longer one can actually prevent critical clitoral contact.
 

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I am high drive and a strong willed woman too, but if my husband were hyper focussed on my O, I would feel incredibly pressured, thus highly likely resulting in no O, or worse - my faking one.

Most women can't O from PIV, I can but only after I've already had one.

Take the pressure off, enjoy your wife and remember that there are times when no matter what you do, she just won't be able to get there - she could be tired, stressed, also depends where she is on her cycle.
 

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From a reverse perspective- my wife loves when we o at the same time and will often times stop herself from orgasm until I'm ready. What she doesn't realize is a) how hot I think it is when she goes first and fast, and b) how difficult it actually is to orgasm at the same time without having it become manufactured. Just do it and focus on your approach, the while extension idea is only trying to force the issue.


Or is this really a penis size thread in disguise??....
 

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My wife hates if I take too long after her. She deliberately delays hers now fairly often. Having spent most of my life trying to hold out it’s weird to have the opposite problem now of trying to finish faster.
 
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