I had a previous thread about my situation. I'll quickly recap what happened without going into major details.
My wife (6 years together, 1 year married) left me for her ex who she was with before me. This was about 2 months ago. We have signed all the D paperwork. I've paid her the money I owed her for maritial equity, and all that was left to be done to complete the D was for the judge to sign the paperwork. I'm ready to officially be done with her now after what she did to me.
In the 11th hour before the D (4 days ago) is to be final she emails me with a scanned handwritten letter. The email says the D is on hold, she took the paperwork from the judge before he signed it. She said if I want her to give it back to him she will do so but she wanted to get her feelings and wants out to me first. She works for the attorney who prepared the D paperwork which is how she was able to pull back the paperwork before it was signed.
So the handwritten letter more or less says she loves me, she's sorry for what she has done, etc... My question is this, is taking her back and giving "us" another chance a smart move? Do people change after an A? The last thing I want to happen is to give her another chance to have her do this to me again.
Taking her back would be hard on other levels besides my own emotions too. These levels actually worry me more than my own emotions. My family hates her right now for what she did. My friends do as well. Her coming back would mean she would have a heck of a lot more relationships to mend besides ours. Some of the family/friend relationships may never be able to be worked out with her and them. Also my friends and family would be disappointed in me if I ever took her back.
So with all of that being said, advice is needed and appreciated in this situation. Thank you to everyone!
My wife (6 years together, 1 year married) left me for her ex who she was with before me. This was about 2 months ago. We have signed all the D paperwork. I've paid her the money I owed her for maritial equity, and all that was left to be done to complete the D was for the judge to sign the paperwork. I'm ready to officially be done with her now after what she did to me.
In the 11th hour before the D (4 days ago) is to be final she emails me with a scanned handwritten letter. The email says the D is on hold, she took the paperwork from the judge before he signed it. She said if I want her to give it back to him she will do so but she wanted to get her feelings and wants out to me first. She works for the attorney who prepared the D paperwork which is how she was able to pull back the paperwork before it was signed.
So the handwritten letter more or less says she loves me, she's sorry for what she has done, etc... My question is this, is taking her back and giving "us" another chance a smart move? Do people change after an A? The last thing I want to happen is to give her another chance to have her do this to me again.
Taking her back would be hard on other levels besides my own emotions too. These levels actually worry me more than my own emotions. My family hates her right now for what she did. My friends do as well. Her coming back would mean she would have a heck of a lot more relationships to mend besides ours. Some of the family/friend relationships may never be able to be worked out with her and them. Also my friends and family would be disappointed in me if I ever took her back.
So with all of that being said, advice is needed and appreciated in this situation. Thank you to everyone!