Stop this.
You're looking for easy way outs.
There isn't an easy way out of this.
I also gave you the response to this in your actual thread.
But it's clear you cannot contain it to there and branched out simply based on the fact you are hoping to gather a larger audience and statistically gain a larger chance of hearing what you want to hear.
Dewayne.
Do you really want a life where you have to constantly think to yourself "Oh I hope I'm good enough for her, so she won't leave me again?"
What a sick. Twisted. Nauseating way to live.
Haven't you lived that way enough?
When are you going to balls up and start living a life you want.
This is the thing though.
You think far too much in black and white, without adding any gray.
Tricky thing about gray thinking though, if you do not have enough self control, restraint and love it is easily turned into excuses, false hope and all that other 'limbo' type thinking.
Here's a question for you.
When I tell you "Be the man you want to be" do you automatically assume (assumptions are bad btw) that means you need to be some emotionally cold prick to her to get your way?
You often hear the word 'compromise' thrown around.
"Marriage is full of compromises."
Yes .. and no.
Marriage is full of boundaries that are respected and maintained by the individual because that's what makes THEM happy.
Two individuals who come together because they WANT to be together. Not because they NEED to be together and respect each other as individuals all the while recognizing and obeying each others boundaries.
Really do not know what else to tell you to help you get the hint that this is no longer about her and all about you.