It's not that you are simply on separate paths, it's that your husband has decided he wants to act like he's in his early twenties and out with a group of singles.
Be very careful here that your husband doesn't end up in affair with one of these chicks. I'm not trying to be alarmist. He's already prioritizing partying with them over you. He's prioritizing giving the other girl a ride home over you.
Ask yourself - why are these young single folks out drinking and partying till 3am? Answer: they are trying to meet other people with the goal of hooking up and dating etc.
That's their goal. So what's your husbands goal in being there that late?
The chick should have either left when her ride was leaving or she should take responsibility for herself - WITHOUT the attitude. You did her a big favor giving her a ride, and it's not like you stayed for 5 min then bailed. No, you were there for most of the night.
Your husband needs a major rethink on whats important to him (should be you, you should be #1) and about acceptable boundaries for a married guy in his 40's.
Look 40's is a young active age, and should be enjoyed. However, a married man in his 40's should not be hanging and partying until 3am with a bunch of young singles. Even if his wife is there. That stuff should at this point be old and boring to him, and since he stopped doing it from when he was single and in his mid 20s - he needs to understand why he is now suddenly not finding it boring.
Is it that he's enjoying the attention he's getting from these single girls? That he likes them needing him for rides, and to help them out ? That he gets to play daddy to them? At 25 , a 40 yr old may be "cool old guy" but your husband has to see that he's still and old guy to them.
Unfortunately that doesn't mean that a 25 yr old chick won't willinglly sleep with a cool old 40 yr old. Oh, they may not be willing to setup house with him, but they will be perfectly happy to hook up.
Advice: I wouldn't let him go to any of these social gatherings alone. You need to be there and you need to keep on top of whats going down. At the same time, you need to talk to your husband about boundaries and priorities and respect - including respecting you when you've had enough and want to go home.
Be very careful here that your husband doesn't end up in affair with one of these chicks. I'm not trying to be alarmist. He's already prioritizing partying with them over you. He's prioritizing giving the other girl a ride home over you.
Ask yourself - why are these young single folks out drinking and partying till 3am? Answer: they are trying to meet other people with the goal of hooking up and dating etc.
That's their goal. So what's your husbands goal in being there that late?
The chick should have either left when her ride was leaving or she should take responsibility for herself - WITHOUT the attitude. You did her a big favor giving her a ride, and it's not like you stayed for 5 min then bailed. No, you were there for most of the night.
Your husband needs a major rethink on whats important to him (should be you, you should be #1) and about acceptable boundaries for a married guy in his 40's.
Look 40's is a young active age, and should be enjoyed. However, a married man in his 40's should not be hanging and partying until 3am with a bunch of young singles. Even if his wife is there. That stuff should at this point be old and boring to him, and since he stopped doing it from when he was single and in his mid 20s - he needs to understand why he is now suddenly not finding it boring.
Is it that he's enjoying the attention he's getting from these single girls? That he likes them needing him for rides, and to help them out ? That he gets to play daddy to them? At 25 , a 40 yr old may be "cool old guy" but your husband has to see that he's still and old guy to them.
Unfortunately that doesn't mean that a 25 yr old chick won't willinglly sleep with a cool old 40 yr old. Oh, they may not be willing to setup house with him, but they will be perfectly happy to hook up.
Advice: I wouldn't let him go to any of these social gatherings alone. You need to be there and you need to keep on top of whats going down. At the same time, you need to talk to your husband about boundaries and priorities and respect - including respecting you when you've had enough and want to go home.
