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At what point do you say "this isn't worth it?"
I know the answer is different for everyone. But, man oh man. I've driving myself crazy and I just don't think it's worth it.
I keep finding "clues", on top of my deep gut feeling that he is having at least an EA and possibly was an PA.
He is treating me like crap and denies everything. "You're crazy", "we're JUST friends" and "I don't love you anymore" are among his favorites to tell me.
When I search for signs of re-writting marriage, cheating and walk away spouse syndrome- he fits them to a T.
He suggested MC and we are doing it. But, keeps telling me it doesn't matter because he doesn't care. He's, also, depressed and I think it's guilt that's eating him alive. When I look back at the timeline, he became condescending, rude, belittling and depressed right after she transferred out of state. It's like he was home and nice still because he was still on a high from seeing her. When I asked him to cut off contact, it turned into a no way, she's my friend, you're controlling, I need my space/privacy and (the best) YES, her friendship is worth our marriage. And, last night on FB, she posted something along the lines of "If you love 2 people, always pick the second. Because if you really loved the first, you wouldn't have fallen for the second."
He later says he says these things out of anger and really doesn't mean them.
But, seriously, what do you do without concrete proof? Is this concrete proof? What do you do when one week he says he's in and the next he's out.
It's not easy to call it quits when you're going to devastate 4 little people's lives.
I know the answer is different for everyone. But, man oh man. I've driving myself crazy and I just don't think it's worth it.
I keep finding "clues", on top of my deep gut feeling that he is having at least an EA and possibly was an PA.
He is treating me like crap and denies everything. "You're crazy", "we're JUST friends" and "I don't love you anymore" are among his favorites to tell me.
When I search for signs of re-writting marriage, cheating and walk away spouse syndrome- he fits them to a T.
He suggested MC and we are doing it. But, keeps telling me it doesn't matter because he doesn't care. He's, also, depressed and I think it's guilt that's eating him alive. When I look back at the timeline, he became condescending, rude, belittling and depressed right after she transferred out of state. It's like he was home and nice still because he was still on a high from seeing her. When I asked him to cut off contact, it turned into a no way, she's my friend, you're controlling, I need my space/privacy and (the best) YES, her friendship is worth our marriage. And, last night on FB, she posted something along the lines of "If you love 2 people, always pick the second. Because if you really loved the first, you wouldn't have fallen for the second."
He later says he says these things out of anger and really doesn't mean them.
But, seriously, what do you do without concrete proof? Is this concrete proof? What do you do when one week he says he's in and the next he's out.
It's not easy to call it quits when you're going to devastate 4 little people's lives.