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I wonder if our habits from high school/college have changed much. I know mine haven’t.
I wear makeup most times that I venture out of the house and if seeing friends. Typically foundation, pencil eyeliner, neutral eye-shadow, pale lipstick, and blush. If I'm going out somewhere 'special' I might add a bit of glitter to the eye-shadow or darker options for the eyes - and then still keep to a pale lipstick so it's not too much going on at once. I experimented a fair bit with clothes and identity growing up. That hasn't changed too much, really. Been through different phases as an adult, granted I look pretty conservative in how I present. Currently my preference is flowing dresses with heeled boots.
 

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Also, during the late 80's and into the very early 90's my dad could bounce a quarter off my hair I kept it so sprayed into shape. He thought it was hilarious.
hahah ..! I can relate.
 
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I went through a teenage phase of wearing eyeliner. I also had blue hair (which is wavy/curly and I'd straighten it every morning), I wore girls skinny jeans, and I had my nipples pierced... I tried to delete all the evidence of that but my wife probably has pictures hidden somewhere :LOL:
Love this haha.
 
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Shaving legs, hmmm I reckon about 15? Makeup wasn't really a thing while I was at school, so I was around 17 I think when I started wearing it, late 80's/early 90's...omg...I used to wear pink eyeshadow with blue eyeshadow as eyeliner on the bottom - because I wanted to be like Jennifer Horton from Days Of Our Lives 🤣 Omfg... Ah the 80's - perms, big hair, big earrings, bright colours. I remember I used to wear a black blouse with a bright orange, pencil skirt to work!! Bahahahaha.

I've always worn makeup when I leave the house, when I was younger it was all about looks, but now I do it for a combination of feeling and looking nice, and the SPF. I've always taken care of my skin - always worn sunscreen, makeup with SPF etc. I'm always encountering people who are gobsmacked that I'm the age I am so I must have done something right! I don't usually wear makeup if I know I'll be home all day, but some days at home I'll wear mascara and lipstick, just because I can lol.
 

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I wonder if our habits from high school/college have changed much. I know mine haven’t.
Mine have changed drastically. Sometime in my late 20's or early 30's my husband mentioned he didn't much like make up because of the smell of cosmetics being so chemical and I just stopped wearing it unless I was going out for a super special occasion.

I dug out an old photo from when I first went to a nightclub.
I went to a lot of bars and parties, but didn't go to any clubs until I was 24. My first nightclub experience was a Goth/Techno club in the city that has been a local institution since the 70's. A couple of friends insisted I go once they found out I'd never been and thus a weekend tradition was born. It was the only club in the area open til 4am, too, which was awesome.

I went once or twice a week for a few months, met my husband, and that was that. We went back for a special event a few years ago and it was a blast. The place is the same crumbing dive it's been for over 40 years. <3
 

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I'm close to your age, so yes we did!

I dug out an old photo from when I first went to a nightclub. I would have been aged 15/16. A friend who was a couple years older took me, and provided me with a fake ID. At the door, I was preparing myself that I wouldn't get in. However, bouncer just waved us through. I had light foundation with liquid eyeliner, mascara, neutral eye-shadow, blush, and bright red lipstick. She wore hot-pants with a halter neck top. I wore black pants with a formal-style jacket (whah?) and likely my first pair of heels; although they were a chunky heel. Prior, I had been to raves and used to wear men's oversized jeans with fitted bodysuits. Not a flattering look. My brother and I were recollecting and laughing recently over some of our fashion choices. He basically dressed like Jim Morrison; and threw in occasional pop star influence, too. What I loved wearing the most, before I saved and got a leather jacket, was an anime tshirt which had an emblam that glowed in the dark. I also loved wearing doc marten boots. Meanwhile, friends were in 'normal' stylish dresses.

Scene from first night-club

I went to nightclubs around that age too, no fake I.D. though, Trinidadian culture is different in that way. There's no official drinking/partying age, it's pretty much up to your parents and the individual. The climate certainly did not allow for a lot of clothes or makeup, especially as the clubs I went to were seafront and outdoor. I pretty much wore rompers and mini sundresses or shorts/mini skirts and tops in my girly phase, or tight jeans/leggings and sexy tops. I wasn't into eyeshadow at the time and had no clue about blush/bronzer, so it was heavy liquid/pencil eyeliner, bright lipstick.

I still wear mini sundresses, tight jeans and sexy tops, and mini-skirts but my idea of sexy has matured as I've matured. I show way less skin now, but my makeup is more on point. It's not Instagram worthy or anything, I don't care for plastered on makeup, but it's definitely not natural. I love sparkly eyeshadow, smoky eyes and lots of color. I don't do the super loud lip colors I used to (some I cringe at now 😱:ROFLMAO:, I wear sheer versions instead or neutral color. I wear mostly neutral (shades of brown/pink/peach) eyeshadow with pops of color (mostly jewel-toned) or all-out smoky grey/brown/bronze, mostly neutral blush, light matte bronzer for some color and definition, and a decent amount of mascara and fill in my eyebrows. Pretty much, I like to have fun with it, and go with my mood/available time/the occasion.
 

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I got my ears pierced and shaved below the knee at age 13. Tried makeup out but never really like it. I only wear eyeliner and mascara and only because when I don’t everyone asks if I’m sick. I still don’t shave above the knee...the beauty of being Celtic...I am just not very hairy and what little I do have is very light.

All three of my girls are into makeup but only my middle daughter won’t leave the house without it. She’s very good at it actually.
 

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I started wearing makeup at age 11. I didn’t really ask, I just used my moms. She was shocked that I used hers, but didn’t care, but at the same time wouldn’t buy me my own. So I ran around for several years with an orange face and way too mature eyeshadow. Insult to injury, my sister was a model and never coached me on how to wear makeup properly. They all just let me flop around looking like a clown for several years. (Thanks guys!!) Finally, a mean girl pointed out my makeup line and orange face in 8th or 9th grade. I had already had a job for quite some time at that point so I had my own money and bought my own makeup. From that point on, my makeup looked better but I still wore entirely too much. Probably well into my late 20s. BUT, I was also very good at doing makeup so it was more about the accomplishment of being able to do a really good full face than it was about wanting to wear makeup. I was more impressed by the skills I had and what I could do than I was with the NEED to wear it. I enjoyed the process. But I was also the type that would go shopping, to the grocery, etc. without makeup on. But for work or to go out, it was always done. Along with my hair. Now, the last few years, I don’t wear anywhere near as much as I used to, nor do I care if my hair is done. Most of the times it’s wash my hair and let it dry. Minimal makeup, usually just a little concealer, blush, liner and mascara. If I’m going somewhere special I’ll do the whole routine. But of course with Covid, that doesn’t happen real often the last 8 months or so.

Shaving I wanted to start around 9 I think. But, I was a gymnast. We wore leotards often so our legs were exposed. We had a female coach that would jokingly say that we needed to shave our legs because we were scratching her while she spotted us. So I would every now and again. I started full time at 11 because I started getting body hair “elsewhere”. One mistake of getting in a hot tub at gymnastics camp in a light yellow bathing suit and then standing up and some of the male gymnasts making a comment about the see through-ness of my suit started a pretty big chain reaction of shaving EVERYTHING. I still to this day shave everything almost daily. Never more than a day in between.
 

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I think I was 12 when I bought my first eye liner and snuck in the house. It was that kind that people would use a a lighter to melt so that it looked like liquid eyeliner. I had no idea what I was doing with that. I don't think I really wore make regularly until 14 or 15. And even then, it wasn't very much. I think eyeliner and blush were what I wore the most.
 

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I only want to look good for my husband and he really doesn't worry that I dont wear it.
I gotta say, my husband likes me without makeup and also compliments when I wear it, too. He is one of few people that 'gets' to see me without makeup and I'm completely comfortable with him. However, makeup to me feels like completing an outfit which combines with both liking how it looks, maybe a bit of fun (like with the glitter eye-shadow) and admittedly, perhaps a tinge of insecurity; which I don't feel around Batman. I have a couple of friends who never wear makeup, and a few who (like me) I'll always see wearing some form of makeup.
 
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I went to nightclubs around that age too, no fake I.D. though, Trinidadian culture is different in that way.
I didn't get to keep the fake ID... as much as I wanted to. It was a replica of my friend's student ID and she felt it was risky with the college. With her, I went to that first club, then she took me to a vodka bar, and to an acid-jazz (hello 90s!) venue located in Soho (London). Known as the 'red-light district' she did suggest not sharing with our mothers that she had taken me there. Next couple of times, my brother and his girlfriend took me out, before I started going out with peers; without ID, but I knew some people working where I frequented due to the music scene.

Then aged 17, Batman first entered my world. We had spoken over the phone but had not met. Arranged to meet casually at a bar/club. It wasn't a date but I remember feeling intrigued, nervous, and excited. We hadn't thought to describe our appearance to one another. Upon meeting, he didn't run the other way so I figured we were off to a good start. We'd only exchanged smiles and hello, when he next saw me being escorted outside towards a cop car. I had been asked for ID inside the club and warned for being underage (legal age of 18). I was too embarrassed to look to Batman.

There's no official drinking/partying age, it's pretty much up to your parents and the individual. The climate certainly did not allow for a lot of clothes or makeup, especially as the clubs I went to were seafront and outdoor. I pretty much wore rompers and mini sundresses or shorts/mini skirts and tops in my girly phase, or tight jeans/leggings and sexy tops. I wasn't into eyeshadow at the time and had no clue about blush/bronzer, so it was heavy liquid/pencil eyeliner, bright lipstick.
That's an interesting cultural aspect. On reflection, how did you find the experience being in that environment (clubbing) at that age in terms of personal impact, responsibilities, safety, etc?
 
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Then aged 17, Batman first entered my world. We had spoken over the phone but had not met. Arranged to meet casually at a bar/club. It wasn't a date but I remember feeling intrigued, nervous, and excited. We hadn't thought to describe our appearance to one another. Upon meeting, he didn't run the other way so I figured we were off to a good start. We'd only exchanged smiles and hello, when he next saw me being escorted outside towards a cop car. I had been asked for ID inside the club and warned for being underage (legal age of 18). I was too embarrassed to look to Batman.
That's so wonderful that you guys have that, it's so special to be someone's one and only.

That's an interesting cultural aspect. On reflection, how did you find the experience being in that environment (clubbing) at that age in terms of personal impact, responsibilities, safety, etc?
Well, my uncle is only 13 yrs older than me, we even shared some friends, so I always had him around as both a safety net and a quasi chaperone. I had a blast, and was so excited to be there, I never bothered to drink. Plus the highschool I went to hosted Carnival fetes (parties) at some of the same clubs and everyone's parents were there. It was awkward if your parents caught you twerking😱, but then we got them to do it too :ROFLMAO:

I've tasted alcohol since I was a child in sips from my uncles who thought it was funny, and sneaking sips when I'd pour their drinks. My older uncle taught me how to pour a beer perfectly by the time I was 8 :D. The first time I was ever drunk (more tipsy than a buzz, but not drunk drunk), I was 31 and bored at my ex's friend's part (they kept talking shop). The splitting headache the next day made me never do THAT again.
 

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The first time I was ever drunk (more tipsy than a buzz, but not drunk drunk), I was 31 and bored at my ex's friend's part (they kept talking shop). The splitting headache the next day made me never do THAT again.
You are much wiser than me!

The first time I was drunk was my 18th. Out on the town with a group of friends, my brother, and his girlfriend (and who had arranged that I would stay at their place that night). We parted with the friends. Then brother, his girl, and I were walking to get a cab to go onto another venue when I randomly bumped into Batman lining up outside a club. That was the second time I'd seen him. I was quite tipsy at that stage. We exchanged another brief hello, I told him we were celebrating my birthday, quick hug goodbye, and I gave him a peck on the cheek. And from that brief interaction, I could not stop thinking about him the rest of the night. He phoned the following week, wanted to confirm that I was single, and we casually arranged to meet at a club. However, after that loose arrangement was made, a guy I had previously dated phoned out of the blue and also wanted to meet that same night. He suggested a set time and plan. My intention was to be there. But.. I saw Batman earlier in the night. We ended up dancing and kissing, and needless to say, I didn't make it to meet the other guy (yes, I stood him up). After that night, Batman arranged our first date.
 
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Shaving legs: 11 years old. I don't remember when I started shaving my armpits.
Make-up- 13/14 years old. Freshman year of high school. I wasn't allowed to wear dark lipstick.

I've gone through periods of my life when I haven't worn makeup. I suppose I go back to it, because I really have to. My husband prefers me with make-up. He complained once that he was setup on a blind date with a girl who didn't wear any make-up.
 

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I'm waiting till I get a little older.
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It still freaks me out a bit, when time to time pre covid we'd sporadically see male teens wearing makeup at the mall. If one isn't a performer, well, makeup isn't the most manly thing imho.

Mostly about 10 yrs or so ago when the whole metro-sexual thing gained popularity in high schools. It's faded now.

Sorry for the side track. But hey equal rights and all that.
In the 80's hair bands wore make-up. I always liked the way eyeliner looked on guys. Lipstick and blush, not so much.
 

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I gotta say, my husband likes me without makeup and also compliments when I wear it, too. He is one of few people that 'gets' to see me without makeup and I'm completely comfortable with him. However, makeup to me feels like completing an outfit which combines with both liking how it looks, maybe a bit of fun (like with the glitter eye-shadow) and admittedly, perhaps a tinge of insecurity; which I don't feel around Batman. I have a couple of friends who never wear makeup, and a few who (like me) I'll always see wearing some form of makeup.
I agree that make up completes an outfit, makes us look a bit more polished :)
 

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I agree that make up completes an outfit, makes us look a bit more polished :)
My colleague has dared me to attend a zoom meeting without makeup. I told her, nope not happening!

(no need to scare everyone!)
 
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Never been one for a lot of makeup and only started wearing mascara and lipstick in my early 20s. I remember get scolded for wearing red nail varnish when I was 15. In my household makeup was considered something that trollops wear, I kid you not! I wear light makeup now when I go to work or go out but think it is bad for the skin. I am told I am naturally beautiful and have good bone structure and skin though now that I am older a bit of BB cream helps to the early onset wrinkles 😂
 
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