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Last night I was at my son's little league game. I had to go out to the car for something and was walking about 25 yards behind a couple headed out to the parking lot. As they were climbing into the back of her minivan I happened to notice who they were. It was a married woman and a single dad, both of whom have boys who have been on my son's teams at various times. I walked back to the field and looked over occasionally. The van never moved. The woman involved in this has three children in addition to the one playing last night aged 7,8,11. She left them running around for 45 minutes on their own while she spent the time in the back of her minivan with this other man.

What is wrong with people that they would not only do this, but be so obvious about it? And even place themselves in a position where they could be discovered by her kids?

I never really paid attention to this kind pf thing before. Funny how you start paying more attention and noticing these things when you're working on your own marital issues.
 

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I agree that things you shrugged off in the past now are very important. I was on a flight to NY and the woman across the way from me took off her wedding rings and put them in her purse just before we landed.

I would not have thought a thing 18 months ago.
 

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Yep, I notice stuff all the time that I never would have before. Especially people texting from their cars. My office is on the second floor overlooking the parking lot, and every day there's people out there texting away, at all times of the day. I know not all of them are cheating, but I would bet anything that a fair percentage of them are.
 

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If what we imagine is true, they will get caught one day. Cheaters can't hide for very long, IMO.

I wish this were true but many affairs go uncovered

chapparal has thrown out a stat that only 20% of infidelity is revealed, cant say how accurate that is but I would say that a lot more cheating doesn't get caught than you'd think
 

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I wish this were true but many affairs go uncovered

chapparal has thrown out a stat that only 20% of infidelity is revealed, cant say how accurate that is but I would say that a lot more cheating doesn't get caught than you'd think
God, that's depressing :(
 

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It is amazing how you notice little things and wonder about them where as I never gave a second thought before...

I often think about all the people in my workplace and think how many of them are having EA/PA's...it is easy to think no this person doesn't seem the type that would do that..but what is the type???
Somebody can seem so straight laced meanwhile they go home after work and are searching the sex sites...


Again with the advent of technology I think it is happening more and more...
 

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If what we imagine is true, they will get caught one day. Cheaters can't hide for very long, IMO.
Yes but with spouses having separate cell phones/computers etc. which is common today, it can go on for a long time unbeknowst to the other person.

Until you have been cheated on there is just a certain element of trust which you live by.
 

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I agree that things you shrugged off in the past now are very important. I was on a flight to NY and the woman across the way from me took off her wedding rings and put them in her purse just before we landed.

I would not have thought a thing 18 months ago.
Her husband is lucky. My STBXW never even bothered to take hers off!

Seriously, whenever I see infidelity it makes me sick to me stomach.
 

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Back in the day I was the same way, as I have been healing these last 2-1/2 years I have stopped noticing as much. So maybe thats a good thing.
 

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Her husband is lucky. My STBXW never even bothered to take hers off!

Seriously, whenever I see infidelity it makes me sick to me stomach.
Ya I hear you, nothing like waiting for my ride in the ride share parking lot to see a couple maddly make out, then leave in seperate cars.

I also see ton of it when I travel, especially the "nice" motels the company puts me up in. I can totaly tell whats going on when a couple shows up in there own car, and those cars are both gone with in a few hours.
 

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I 'caught' a couple doing the same thing. Both married to other people had kids on the same football team (she was a friend)....the guy actually tried it on with me later on in the same season, and I will admit that I was rather c*nty about it...I told my friend about it. She was pretty pissed that he was coming onto me too, but that put an end to it...
 

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OMG, as an ex-director of our local Babe Ruth Baseball League, used to see this or something like this ALL THE TIME!! People just don't care anymore I guess .... :(
 

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Last night I was at my son's little league game. I had to go out to the car for something and was walking about 25 yards behind a couple headed out to the parking lot. As they were climbing into the back of her minivan I happened to notice who they were. It was a married woman and a single dad, both of whom have boys who have been on my son's teams at various times. I walked back to the field and looked over occasionally. The van never moved. The woman involved in this has three children in addition to the one playing last night aged 7,8,11. She left them running around for 45 minutes on their own while she spent the time in the back of her minivan with this other man.

What is wrong with people that they would not only do this, but be so obvious about it? And even place themselves in a position where they could be discovered by her kids?

I never really paid attention to this kind pf thing before. Funny how you start paying more attention and noticing these things when you're working on your own marital issues.
There is a 2006 movie called Idiocracy.

Idiocracy (2006) - IMDb

In it the people are really dumbed down so that a time traveler from this century is considered the smartest man alive..

The population is portrayed as sex obsessed. Thinking about it frequently and crudely.

It seems like that is the way our society is heading.

Cheating has skyrocketed in the last ten years and so have sex addicted male and females due to easy access to internet porn.

There are articles in science daily such as "this is your brain on porn" that show that porn damages the frontal lobes of the brain where impulse control resides.

The OW in my STBEH's affair had four kids. She left them with the nanny and/or her spouse so she could go bang other men.

No wonder society is going to heck in a hand basket.

I like sex, but I have many other things to think about during the day.

An affair was never even something I EVER CONSIDERED or even thought about.

It just seems so sleazy and too jerry springer for me
 

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something similar kinda here..

i was closing up my restaurant one night about a month ago. I was alone and it was dark. I have a small window (peep type) in the security door to the back parking lot where i park my car. I looked out as i always do..and there was a white van pulling up beside my car. Now ..you can not see this area from the road it is behind our quite large building.

so anyway i waited..and a man got out of the van. he stood between my car and his van for ten min. He got on his phone. and then..he walked across the parking lot. you see next door is a hotel and then in front of the hotel is a massage parlor. not an advertised place..low key, but we know what it is as the girls all buy take out food from us :rofl: So i saw him go in the back door to the massage parlour. I figured he must be married or he wouldnt be hiding his van.

Sure enough about a week later he did the same thing. I got a dig in for his wife though..:D

While he was in there.. I went out and put a note under his window wiper. simply said. Tell her or I will. Then I went back in the restaurant and watched. HAHAHAHAHAHA..he looked like he was going to faint when he read that note. I hope he went home and confessed so that woman knows who her partner really is.

but somehow..i doubt it:rolleyes:
 
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