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Me and my husband got married three years ago. And sadly were still living with my in-laws because they can't afford to live by themselves. And I understand the situation. Basically, money-wise, we can't start a family right away. 
He works very hard and we're planning now...buying our first house this year, a church wedding next year, and children after. I am so determine for this to happen! That's why I work over-time to save some extra money. And I'm also studying at the same time to become a CPA, hoping that it will lead us to a better future.
One time, my husband asked my permission, he wants to have a hobby and also make friends. He was actually so dry helping his family back then that he forgot himself, his life was all work-work-work and gave all his earning to his family to meet ends. I feel his sadness and I gave him my blessings. :smthumbup: Besides I thought it will give me time-away-from-him so I can focus more on studying.
He was so happy to find new friends and he really find enjoyment in his new hobby ("airsoft"). I am happy for him but its making me feel sad now. Most of the days, when I get home from work (over-time), he's still out with his friends. And he is buying more and more stuff for his hobby. I thought about our plans. I am working hard here to make it happen and what is he doing? Am I wrong to think it that way? I'm saving every penny I can while he is buying additional guns. I told him about how I feel and asked if he can be home once I'm home because we seldom have quality time together now. He has gone mad and told me that he feels like I'm controlling him. We didn't talk for two days. I asked his parents for help, but his mom told me that I should be thankful because its not like he's cheating or doing drugs. That sounds bias to me. And then finally, my husband said we meet half-way. It pains me that he can't even give into my request. It's not like I'm stopping him from his hobby and friends. I just want to have diner with him when I get home and maybe spend some quality time together, even if its just watching television.
He said we should have an activity together and that I should make friends too. I said to him, "Yes, I also thirst for friends but that's not my priority right now".
I am in my 30's and I don't want to have a child if we cant support them. I asked my dad and he's advise is to wait for him to mature. I hope it won't be too long of a wait... sometimes I think of quitting my dreams of becoming a CPA and just join him...but that's not me
I can't give up on my dreams.
Also I feel like my husband is giving me the responsibility of our life because he knows I am a strong willed person. But I can't do it on my own, I also need his support. If he can't keep me motivated, at least inspire me.
Please give me an advise. It's actually affecting my study. Is there someone who has gone through this? Help!
He works very hard and we're planning now...buying our first house this year, a church wedding next year, and children after. I am so determine for this to happen! That's why I work over-time to save some extra money. And I'm also studying at the same time to become a CPA, hoping that it will lead us to a better future.
One time, my husband asked my permission, he wants to have a hobby and also make friends. He was actually so dry helping his family back then that he forgot himself, his life was all work-work-work and gave all his earning to his family to meet ends. I feel his sadness and I gave him my blessings. :smthumbup: Besides I thought it will give me time-away-from-him so I can focus more on studying.
He was so happy to find new friends and he really find enjoyment in his new hobby ("airsoft"). I am happy for him but its making me feel sad now. Most of the days, when I get home from work (over-time), he's still out with his friends. And he is buying more and more stuff for his hobby. I thought about our plans. I am working hard here to make it happen and what is he doing? Am I wrong to think it that way? I'm saving every penny I can while he is buying additional guns. I told him about how I feel and asked if he can be home once I'm home because we seldom have quality time together now. He has gone mad and told me that he feels like I'm controlling him. We didn't talk for two days. I asked his parents for help, but his mom told me that I should be thankful because its not like he's cheating or doing drugs. That sounds bias to me. And then finally, my husband said we meet half-way. It pains me that he can't even give into my request. It's not like I'm stopping him from his hobby and friends. I just want to have diner with him when I get home and maybe spend some quality time together, even if its just watching television.
He said we should have an activity together and that I should make friends too. I said to him, "Yes, I also thirst for friends but that's not my priority right now".
I am in my 30's and I don't want to have a child if we cant support them. I asked my dad and he's advise is to wait for him to mature. I hope it won't be too long of a wait... sometimes I think of quitting my dreams of becoming a CPA and just join him...but that's not me
Also I feel like my husband is giving me the responsibility of our life because he knows I am a strong willed person. But I can't do it on my own, I also need his support. If he can't keep me motivated, at least inspire me.
Please give me an advise. It's actually affecting my study. Is there someone who has gone through this? Help!