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Hints, make it a mystery. Straight out will just turn me off; too easy. (Unless it's a tease, then its turn on x10)

But that's just me, all men are different
 

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Guys aren't like girls, we can get straight to the point. My wife will strip, or most time open my pants, get on her knees and perform oral or just put her hands down my pants, in passing, kitchen, wherever we are. Sometime without saying a word, she will unzip my pants, sit me down and begin riding me. We are on 13 years and have 3 kids under 6. I am HD she is LD, but about 3 years ago changed to HD. I have never said no. We have done some crazy stuff, I am her HO!.
 

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My husband prefers hints, a lot of teasing and a bit of mystery as well.

He responds well to me playing without the intent of sex - it's in the attitude. He knows I don't care if we have sex or not but that I'm still interested in being sexual with him just because. Takes the pressure off to perform and of course it almost always does lead to sex. ;)
 

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Wow you've posted quite close to what I've posted.
I'd like to hear the answers to your questions myself. I guess Mavash' answer is closest to what generally works for me too... the straightforward approaches are more misses than hits...
 

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I couldn't disagree more, sorry mavash and zing, you are dead wrong here! I am assuming you are both women, and your guys are running games on you. Guys hate games, hints, guessing, massages, BS, we want sex, period, all the time. Within sex, we love and will do it all, but the best way to initiate is to be direct, d!ck in mouth, sorry to be so direct, but its warranted in this case. If you don't know this, you don't know your men. Welcome to mans world. Women make love, men F*ck.
 

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I feel that the only reason women drop hints is that they feel that if they asked straight out, that they might very well face rejection from their man. And I think that a great many more men than women feel the very same way.

There is no dishonor in asking for what one wants or needs. Just set firm ground rules up that if either is ever rejected from making their desires known, that a valid reason is given for any subsequent denial.

I really feel that this is a communication issue that should be handled as overtly and lovingly as possible!
 

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I couldn't disagree more, sorry mavash and zing, you are dead wrong here! I am assuming you are both women, and your guys are running games on you. Guys hate games, hints, guessing, massages, BS, we want sex, period, all the time. Within sex, we love and will do it all, but the best way to initiate is to be direct, d!ck in mouth, sorry to be so direct, but its warranted in this case. If you don't know this, you don't know your men. Welcome to mans world. Women make love, men F*ck.
Bull****. Some men can't stand a woman who is too blatant in initiating, whether it be sex, or even being picked up. Not all men get off with the obvious, "d*ick in the mouth" approach. Some men do like a tease, subtle hints, because they like to feel in control, or they like the chase.

Women make love, men F*ck.
More crap. Plenty of men enjoy doing both.
 

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My husband likes the subtle cues and tease too. As simple as moving my hair to expose my neck, giving him the look and walking away just to glance back over my shoulder, subtle flirty body language, leaving the door open when I'm in a bath, caressing him, wearing something that teases... There are moments when I'm direct in my approach and he likes the mix of both but he favors more the tease and mystery. I enjoy flirting and keeping him guessing, so it's been working for us.
 

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Of course I will make love sometimes, when I am sated, i will take my time, but most times its a f*ck. And Jaquen, what planet are you from. Are you a man, men, i would put this in the 99.9 percentile love women who know what they want and initiate. You are dead, dead wrong dude. Being picked up, was that a 60, 70s thing, we love to be picked up and we love women who know what they want. A tease is ok, but we prefer straight to business, not beating around the bush. Again, once a man is sated, a little game is ok, like what you all describe, but the norm is d!ck to mouth, not ***** footing. I don't have a very narrow view, I have a mans view, the factual male view that your weak men wont tell you. Someone mentioned communication, if you had it with your men, then you would know. a man to sex is like a vampire to blood, the breaking dawn series comes to mind. Women learn what's is a mans mind. All you need to do is put your hands in his pants, that's it, the rest is lies they told you, because that's what they think you want!
 

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Of course I will make love sometimes, when I am sated, i will take my time, but most times its a f*ck.
Then don't write in absolutes that women make love, and men f*ck, if even you cop to doing both.

And Jaquen, what planet are you from.
Planet Common Sense. You should visit some time. It's quite nice.

Are you a man
Sure am.

men, i would put this in the 99.9 percentile love women who know what they want and initiate.
Got a link to back this up 99.9 percentile? Got any actual male friends? I have plenty, and guess what? Quite a few of them enjoy the tease, the seduction, the game. The "d*ick in the mouth" approach is hot, it's my wife's preferred method, but lots of men enjoy the thrill of the chase. A hot woman walking suggestively in a pair of her favorite sexy underwear. A look. Men who actually have regular, fulfilling sex with real women aren't always so desperate for sex that they can't stand a little teasing, a little lead up.

Again, you don't have to choose.

You are dead, dead wrong dude. Being picked up, was that a 60, 70s thing, we love to be picked up and we love women who know what they want. A tease is ok, but we prefer straight to business, not beating around the bush. Again, once a man is sated, a little game is ok, like what you all describe, but the norm is d!ck to mouth, not ***** footing. I don't have a very narrow view, I have a mans view, the factual male view that your weak men wont tell you. Someone mentioned communication, if you had it with your men, then you would know. a man to sex is like a vampire to blood, the breaking dawn series comes to mind. Women learn what's is a mans mind. All you need to do is put your hands in his pants, that's it, the rest is lies they told you, because that's what they think you want!
I know what planet you're from now. It's planet Cub!chy.

Population: 1.

It makes perfect sense now that you have the authority to speak for the whole world.
 

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Hey Cub!chy,

It's exactly that narrow view of men that has left me bewildered and hurt. If it were as simple as stuffing my hand down my guy's pants then I'd be having the amount of sex that I want. But it isn't so simple. Each man is different in his needs, wants, likes, etc. Like another thread shows, some men like it straight up, some like a tease, etc. some are put off by such a forward woman. Some like when a woman knows what she wants and some don't.

Presently, I"m struggling with the fact I'm HD and he's LD. What suggestion do you have with this fact?? and it is not that I'm unattractive, overweight, or dull. My previous BF made me feel like the hottest thing on the planet. But we had similar drives and tastes for sexual adventure. As it happens, my present BF and I don't. Or I haven't figured out how to unlock it.

Ideas??
 

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Jaquen, pardon my absolute, and ok, 99.9% is a little high, I will bring it down to 99.8%. I didn't say men can't do the teasing seduction game as you call it, I said we prefer directness, c0ck in mouth. I am 38, been around the block a couple of times, but only 1 planet, the place were real men speak their mind. Are you telling me that during 1 week of daily sex, you don't prefer your partner to go down on you instead of hinting and flirting around the issue? Read the original post, what's better, I say, men prefer direct, hand in pants, c0ck in mouth, and if 99.8 is too high, you provide a %, buts if its less than 75%, you aint from planet earth. Lovesong, yours is a different issue, from the original post. I would suggest watching porn together, hand in pants, daily oral, rubbing his c0ck outside his pants, you masturbating in front of him, offer anal, ride him, lick his balls, have anal in front of mirror, do DP with anal and dildo, speak to him as to your wants and needs and he will man up for you. Be direct and it wont fail. If it does, he may have other issues, maybe medical condition.
 
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