You're welcome,and that goes both ways for sure.TBT, you have consistently provided kind words to me over the years. Thank you.
I hope things are okay with you?
Interesting article. Thanks.Working through how to get out of triangulation in my family. This was a helpful article.
Triangulation is defined as indirect communication where one person (usually the narcissist) acts as a messenger between two others, often fabricating the message to suit the talebearer’s obj…parenting.exposed
Interesting article. Thanks.
One of the habits I've developed is that my almost automatic response if someone tells me that a third person ("Aunt Jemima") thinks something, is to immediately ask "do you think they are right?" or "do you agree?"
Same for meWhen I was growing up, honesty wasn't allowed. Neither of my parents were safe people to be around
Ah, that's slightly different. I was thinking of the triangle where a parent tells you that Aunt Jemima thinks you are rude (for example) -- reference to a critic who's not present.I've found that when when he writes, he compliments me, and in person, when he has my step-mom as an audience, he criticizes/insults me.
When your father does that, is he speaking to you or your step-mom? My parents would do that, but speaking to each other (criticism of me) in front of me.
And are you now basically safe from them? As in, not dependent on them to live? Because otherwise, step 1 is to get your life to where they can't materially harm you.
Until you are financially independent of your father, it will be difficult to establish boundaries. One can hardly say "Dad, I'm too old to be talked to in this manner" when you're still relying on him for resources. At this point, your only option is to make your visits few and far between.
You're a good person and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
too many snowflakes these days. Boo Hoo -- you've made that board NOT be a safe space anymore. I'm going to take my toys and go home and complain to Mommy that you are being mean. Ugh.Never thought I'd see the day where an emoji of all things has managed to 'offend' people on my other board. But oh, wait. It's 2020. 😐
I hear ya. Now there's talk about removing them all. Seriously? I'm so glad I found this place.too many snowflakes these days. Boo Hoo -- you've made that board NOT be a safe space anymore. I'm going to take my toys and go home and complain to Mommy that you are being mean. Ugh.