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What todo...I'm lost, hurt and confused.

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Hi all, Brand new here. I'll attempt to make a long story short but it probably won't be. A week ago my wife of six years (we have been together for 15 years, have three children one son 13 years old, one daughter 5 years old and another daughter three years old) told me she isn't happy anymore. She gave me the whole...I love you but I'm not in love with you line. I asked if she wanted a divorce and she said she didnt know. Of course I broke down because I love the hell out of her. I slept on the couch and the next day she went and saw a doctor who perscribed porzac and therapy. My wife has always kept things inside and has a family history of depression. My family does as well. I have been treated for the past five years or so with meds for anxiety and depression. Every time I try to engage in conversation she says she doesn't know anything. I can't understand that. I've felt bad before but always know I love my wife dearly and my family. People (including her mom who gets therapy and is medicated for depression) is advising me to just ride it out no matter how much it hurts. One day my wife came to me and said that she doesn't know how she feels but she's "not willing to throw in the towel just yet". She cried and said she doesn't know if shes crying because shes hurt me or because shes made the wrong decision in saying anything at all. I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!! Hold out for what seems to be a lost relationship... or hang in there. She was supposed to start her first therapy appointment today but due to the hurricane we had it was cancelled. HELP PLEASE.
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Hang in there and be patient, please!

Maybe if your wife feels that she can't talk about it, she can write about it...
  • pages long pouring out her heart, her frustration
  • bullet-points highlighting plusses and minuses
  • short notes "I'm mad" "I love you" "I'm so frustrated "I'm confused"

It will take a while for your wife to respond to her new meds and to her therapy. Your patience and openness to be supportive will really be helpful to your wife and, ultimately, your marriage.
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