Firstly, I am new here so hello to everyone. I hope I can help many people here as well as get some valuable help myself.
So I have been with my wife 5 years and married for one. As always, sex was exciting and passionate at the beginning / first year, then it slowly deteriorated until now its almost non existent.
I have a really high sex drive, but she does not; in fact, while we have talked about our lack of sex in our relationship she brought up how sex is not a top priority but claims she likes to enjoy it.
Do you think something like this should have been discussed before getting married? Knowing that I have a very high sex drive and her knowing that she doesnt is a massive clash and is causing issues. She will never initiate, I have to initiate, in fact when talking about it this is what I am advised - do all the work! Also, she is not very experimental and just likes it quick and robotic.
to me this doesnt seem fair nor natural or even healthy. It feels like I am being selfish for wanting sex.
A few things I have tried so far: talk, talk, talk, aphrodisiacs, touching, cuddling, masturbation, initiate in public, different rooms, toys, lube but nothing really makes her passionate. Hot and wanting it. OK, she can get turned on once in a while and allow me in for 5 mins.
What am I doing wrong?
Has anyone got any tips or advice?
Is this common?
Do you think maybe she just has a low sex drive?
I turn to porn more often than not and I am starting to get lazy, please give me some inspiration.
Thanks.
So I have been with my wife 5 years and married for one. As always, sex was exciting and passionate at the beginning / first year, then it slowly deteriorated until now its almost non existent.
I have a really high sex drive, but she does not; in fact, while we have talked about our lack of sex in our relationship she brought up how sex is not a top priority but claims she likes to enjoy it.
Do you think something like this should have been discussed before getting married? Knowing that I have a very high sex drive and her knowing that she doesnt is a massive clash and is causing issues. She will never initiate, I have to initiate, in fact when talking about it this is what I am advised - do all the work! Also, she is not very experimental and just likes it quick and robotic.
to me this doesnt seem fair nor natural or even healthy. It feels like I am being selfish for wanting sex.
A few things I have tried so far: talk, talk, talk, aphrodisiacs, touching, cuddling, masturbation, initiate in public, different rooms, toys, lube but nothing really makes her passionate. Hot and wanting it. OK, she can get turned on once in a while and allow me in for 5 mins.
What am I doing wrong?
Has anyone got any tips or advice?
Is this common?
Do you think maybe she just has a low sex drive?
I turn to porn more often than not and I am starting to get lazy, please give me some inspiration.
Thanks.