OK- I have a few old threads, but a new issue I need advice on.
Flyby Overview-
Married 10 yrs
suspected affair in 09
I am complete idiot
Found this site 12/11
VAR in car 1/12
DDAY 2/1/12
LTA- 3 yrs- took place when they travelled together for work
OM colleague- left company 4/11
WW left company 4/12
3 Kids all under 12
Since Dday- in councelling, things have gone farily well. I have found no evidence of NC broken. Which honestly scares me a bit. 3 yr affair and they never talk once after I bust them??
She says it's b/c she wanted out. But she was also planning on D me, prior to DDAY. I have exposed to some friends and both families, immediately.
Her new job does not require much travel, but a trip here/ there. We have strict rules she follows.
She seems remorseful and has tried to help. But as you all know I still have doubts, as I should.
Here's where I need advice-
We made love tuesday morning. she immediately took a shower before going to MC. That evening she took a flight out. Not to a city she had rendevous before, but he travels for work. She arrived late, around 11pm and called me per rules. we chatted.
She had early meeting (so I am told) - FTR I do know she has a client there so I presume mtg was legit. She caught late afternoon flight home.
Upon arrival, she acted slightly weird, but nothing like before. Took a bath - she usually does in the evening to relax.
This am her panties aren't on top of the dirty laundy pile. I am curious. I search through it and find them- I think. I think they are the ones, but I cannot be positive. They appear to have stains. I sequester them.
I called about testing- it is $200 to have a PSA test. They can tell you how long ago the sex was prior to the secretion as well as test for male fluid. But the guy said I we had relations within a few days it could be mine. To DNA test it's another $600.
I can't be sure the panties are from Wednesday (the day she was away and came home), but it is likely.
Otherwise she has been acting well, I mean working towards R and doing the things I ask. She is cool with transperency etc.
I don't know, I may be being overly suspicious. $800 is a lot of coin if I am wrong -and it could be from me.
What to do??
Flyby Overview-
Married 10 yrs
suspected affair in 09
I am complete idiot
Found this site 12/11
VAR in car 1/12
DDAY 2/1/12
LTA- 3 yrs- took place when they travelled together for work
OM colleague- left company 4/11
WW left company 4/12
3 Kids all under 12
Since Dday- in councelling, things have gone farily well. I have found no evidence of NC broken. Which honestly scares me a bit. 3 yr affair and they never talk once after I bust them??
She says it's b/c she wanted out. But she was also planning on D me, prior to DDAY. I have exposed to some friends and both families, immediately.
Her new job does not require much travel, but a trip here/ there. We have strict rules she follows.
She seems remorseful and has tried to help. But as you all know I still have doubts, as I should.
Here's where I need advice-
We made love tuesday morning. she immediately took a shower before going to MC. That evening she took a flight out. Not to a city she had rendevous before, but he travels for work. She arrived late, around 11pm and called me per rules. we chatted.
She had early meeting (so I am told) - FTR I do know she has a client there so I presume mtg was legit. She caught late afternoon flight home.
Upon arrival, she acted slightly weird, but nothing like before. Took a bath - she usually does in the evening to relax.
This am her panties aren't on top of the dirty laundy pile. I am curious. I search through it and find them- I think. I think they are the ones, but I cannot be positive. They appear to have stains. I sequester them.
I called about testing- it is $200 to have a PSA test. They can tell you how long ago the sex was prior to the secretion as well as test for male fluid. But the guy said I we had relations within a few days it could be mine. To DNA test it's another $600.
I can't be sure the panties are from Wednesday (the day she was away and came home), but it is likely.
Otherwise she has been acting well, I mean working towards R and doing the things I ask. She is cool with transperency etc.
I don't know, I may be being overly suspicious. $800 is a lot of coin if I am wrong -and it could be from me.
What to do??
