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Numerous studies have been done to show the incredible damage porn does, especially to young impressionable minds, and the destruction it brings in peoples lives and marriages.
When studying something, people can be biased to try and validate a particular hypothesis. If somebody studied porn to prove it was a good thing, I am pretty sure they could prove it is beneficial to the mind and the body's overall health.

Generally speaking good research will tell you both the pros and cons. Here are a few pros for example:

  • Someone with an alternate sexual orientation such as homosexuality and contemplating suicide may find that porn lets them know they are actually normal and that they should not allow someone else's religion destroy their life. As a result they embrace who they are and go onto live a happy and fulfilling life.
  • Pharmaceutical companies utilize pornography as a way to help better understand the human sexual response.
  • Fertility clinics may utilize pornography to collect a sperm sample from a donor to help an otherwise infertile couple to conceive and have a family.
  • Religious people that are forbidden to watch porn may study the harmful side effects of porn as their only valid excuse to watch it and enjoy it without feeling ashamed of doing so. This may lead to lots and lots and lots and lots of research on porn. My goodness we better research it some more. WOOOO HOOO this is important research that must NOT STOP!

Just saying....

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Find some sites that are educational about a variety of sexual activities, and then you can say whatever ideas you request came from educational reading about improving your sex life. No porn issues arise.
 
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Find some sites that are educational about a variety of sexual activities, and then you can say whatever ideas you request came from educational reading about improving your sex life. No porn issues arise.
And they do exist, providing photos or drawings that not not explicit, per se, but illustrate the topic.

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This idea prompted from the current Porn Ruining Marriage thread, didn't want to thread jack.

What sexual favors can a man, or woman, ask their spouse for that the spouse or others won't say that's bad, I don't want to.....that idea comes from porn your obviously watching.

When sexual frequency by the H is high, steady, never puts W off, no issues.
Didn't read the whole thread so...

The truth is porn is about sex so there probably isn't a single thing not in porn. However some things are more in the norm range and some are more outside of the norm. The things in the norm range probably wouldn't automatically be called from porn like a blow job, massage, sexy lingerie, etc. But other things like like MFM 3some, nipple clamps and such probably are considered from porn.

While it could be that any of these were thought of outside of porn we will never know because porn is so pervasive. Even men who don't use porn regularly of which there are many, have at one time in their life been exposed. An interesting study would be maybe amish men or amazon tribes. Asking to see what naturally pops into their head without the exposure.

Another thing that at least to me seems to be different is my partner is passionate and in love with me. Loving mutual acts seem natural. Acts that are demeaning or not mutual seem more like porn to me. Maybe that isn't true but you asked basically for a woman view on it not whether the man did or did not actually get it from porn. So wanting to pull out and spray semen in my face/eyes doesn't seem like someone who loves me that seems demeaning so hence porn. I can also say I never once have had a man want to do that so.....

As the wife you loves her husband I would be willing to try most things. My husband doesn't watch porn.

I think if you watch porn regularly and then make these requests whether they are from the content or your own mind the wife wouldn't know and if you've been watching porn how would you know if you'd have had those thought without porn? So she might feel like you a treating her like a porn actress. Women very rarely want to be porn actresses or treated like one. So there is a danger with emotional backlash there too.
 
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