Husband is cheating, we’re going through a divorce and all I can focus on is where did I go wrong. It was a toxic marriage, we both contributed but his stonewalling, lack of empathy and emotion killed everything. He wouldn’t talk unless I said something. And he videotaped us without my knowledge and I couldn’t move beyond that betrayal. At every argument, I’d bring it up. I questioned who I was married to. I told him that he didn’t have any values or morals and I could never trust him again and his only response was”just look at yourself”.