I have never worried about another woman around my husband since I met the man. Me & him both look at this the same way... neither of us can help how other people act, so long as we move & mingle in society, social groups etc, people may act in a way that annoys / gets a little too close for comfort... so long as we both honor our boundaries
towards each other... then noone outside of our relationship is any concern ...I don't see other people as predators. Of course my husband isn't exactly an Alpha beaming with "presence" - or a Social Butterfly, so maybe this makes it easier for me to say these things.
We'd only have a beef with each other -if we allowed something to slip in there -that made the other uncomfortable, and we'd surely be talking about it. How very important that is.
KathyBatesel said: When we were driving home, he told me he'd felt uncomfortable about playing pool with her because past women he's known would have gotten all over his case about it.
I think it's a great sign he is talking to you about his concerns... he wants to do the right thing, as to not give others the wrong idea ....and he surely cares how you feel as well. :smthumbup:
So women... at what point would you feel threatened by another woman's presence or behavior? For me, there was only once and it was when a woman he knew in high school came up and started stroking his face and head and offering him free meals if he came to visit her at her workplace - all in my presence and after she was introduced. It made me mad because she was all but ignoring me as she did these things.
I would have been irritated at HER behavior for sure, how very rude/boundaryless ....but even in this, I doubt I'd feel threatened by it - that would all depend on how he
felt/reacted - did he like her stroking his face...or did he back up, give her a look of "what the hell are you doing ?". When someone makes it so obvious they are throwing themselves at another, it deserves some sort of "blocking" response or a dash to get out of dodge.....which speaks of the respect he has for his partner....this is validating.