I am posting the following because I am a BS who has chosen to forgive. By doing so, I am much happier, I am able to give 100% to my marriage (that I discovered after much reflection and prayer) that I really do want and know it is worth fighting for. 7 months past DD and NC, i am happier than I have been in a very long time, my marriage is strong (but scarred), and I am at peace. I still have triggers, but they quickly pass. I do not feel anger or resentment towards my husband. I will not forget, and I do not excuse or dismiss his actions, but I do forgive. What he did and who he was is not who he is today. He is remorseful and we are both in R together and in it for the long run. Forgiveness is difficult to do. It is not for everyone, and anyone who chooses to forgive does so at their own right time. There is no timetable to forgive. Each person's story and heart are different. It is a choice, and it can make a difference in successfully rebuilding a scarred and damaged marriage brought about by infidelity. The following is long, but worth reading.