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the majority of men also want a partner , kids , stability , and love . you do not need to be married to have those things .
.....and drive many cars out of the station - enjoying that test driving while he's looking for the one he wants to own...even though he doesn't seem to care about the certificate of ownership.men are looking for love the same as women are . the difference is men still want to have sex while were looking for love .
I couldn't ask for a more loving partner in this life.... and I feel as he does about emotionless/ commitmentless promiscuity...one of my main points is a woman should not find any man who would look down on them for having sex as an good option for a partner .
Oh Costa... When I read things like this, the heat is starting to rise :FIREdevil:.... my claws wanting to come out ....When others talk like this.... alot on that Alpha thread in the Men's clubhouse right now...how they put down the gentlemen who treats his gf like she matters the most in his world, this makes him foolish....weak...then on top of this - "User" men have higher value over the man who waits for Love.Costa200 said: For a woman it is highly advantageous to be with a high attraction value male. It doesn't matter if he had tons of lovers. In fact it does matter. It increases his value.
... We are not a bunch of toothless homely hillbillies by any means... a person's value is in the eye of the beholder -how they enrich our lives....For me, knowing a man didn't sleep around to raise his sex rank -but instead cared enough to wait for LOVE...some things in life are Priceless, this is one of those. Studies are interesting, but anything that would group my husband into a "lesser value" bucket - due to society's norms...well....
This is how I feel about such a study >>
I may agree with how you feel about women waiting (my reasons are for her best interests due to men's animalistic intentions) ... but I could never belittle the man who restrains his lusts for the love & intimacy of 1 special woman, as his gift to her...I praise such men as these.... how very rare a find in this world today. Some men can't get the booty... and some choose to pass on emotionless uncommitted EASY sex....there is a huge difference in that.
Again, some of us care, it may be a very small minority but we exist. I may have made a few mistakes in my life, but "settling" on a man.. this was never one of them. I also didn't marry him for his resources, he worked in a Grocery Store at the time, I made a little more than him even ~ we built everything hand in hand -with just our shared dreams & responsible living leading the way....This was us back then >>Costa200 said: Take notice that what this means is that women will try to get 10% of the males. The highly attractive ones. The rest they will settle with for their resources.
You spoke of a double standard. Here it is your way to solve it. Get rid of the "patriarchy". Convince women to choose only chaste men... Convince them to have their way of evaluate men to fit a normal bell curve. I won't hold my breath on that.
They will want to get with the top 10% males and will not care if they have copulated with hundreds before them. See it here? This is how it is, as opposite to what it should be (in your mind).
Even Though We Ain't Got Money - I'm so in love with ya honey, And everything will bring a chain of love. And in the morning when I rise, you bring a tear of joy to my eyes, And tell me everything is gonna be alright.
So it's all about how the man feels special...Costa200 said: If you can't understand that a number one guy has reasons to feel great about himself while number 100 guy has a lot less, then i must really question what kind of guy you are.
If i'm the first to climb the Everest i'm top of the world. If i'm number 100 i'm just one more. Is this a hard notion to grasp?
excuse the sarcasm but
..... what about the woman ...you think a virgin Bride is happy knowing she is his 100th lay? Come on now... Sure they attach to such men & love them dearly.... what choice do they have ~ since all men are horny dogs who can't keep it in their pants, it's expected behavior ... but for the woman who feels deeply ...restraining herself for
The women who HAVE had many partners, of course they don't care.
I so agree with you Drerio... we accept our spouses as they are, cause we sure ain't the end all ourselves sometimes, now are we !?Not trying to jack this thread but real love comes when we are willing to accept our partner (sexually) even when we realize their faults. And, we all have faults... So when you really love you are willing to accept the faults of your spouse.