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Happyman64 made me think about this with his kitchen/house remodel.
The first major 'delineation' between married life and the newly single me was sex with someone else. The last person I had had a sexual encounter with was no longer my ex husband. I felt I had moved on.
But when I finally felt I was fully in my 'new life' was when there was no more furniture or decorating of any sort that reminded me of our old home life.
I still have things from the house but they were antiques handed down from my family - my bed is my great-great-grandma's double brass bed that had been in our guest room; my dining room table and chairs are my great aunt's... a chair in my living room has been recovered... but when I look around I don't see any reminders of my old life.
What helped you feel like you had finally moved on?
The first major 'delineation' between married life and the newly single me was sex with someone else. The last person I had had a sexual encounter with was no longer my ex husband. I felt I had moved on.
But when I finally felt I was fully in my 'new life' was when there was no more furniture or decorating of any sort that reminded me of our old home life.
I still have things from the house but they were antiques handed down from my family - my bed is my great-great-grandma's double brass bed that had been in our guest room; my dining room table and chairs are my great aunt's... a chair in my living room has been recovered... but when I look around I don't see any reminders of my old life.
What helped you feel like you had finally moved on?