I have been married for 13 years now. We had a great relationship as far as I knew and were the envy of other couples. Two years ago an old friend came back into my life. his wife and us began hanging out alot, including going to the bar once or twice a week. most of the time I would not go. Just my wife and him and his wife. My wife began texting him alot which eventually led to the breakdown of his relationship with his wife. After they were apart he and my wife began hanging out together alot more. i was OK with this because I had complete trust in our relationship. One night my wife told me she was no longer attracted to me and wanted to be single and independant. Aparently she has felt this way for a couple years. She refused to work on our disconnect and will not see a couseler. When I questioned her friendship with him she said she would be resentful and did not want to be married anymore. When I questioned him he said he needed her, that she had been there for him during his breakup. I could not take her sudden coldness and eventually moved out. We have 3 children and despite frequent requests to work on our marriage she says this is what she wants. I know we have been drifting apart for some time for whatever reasons but I still want what we once had but feel that all hope is gone. Any advice?