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Am I missing something here, why would the stranger tell us to get a room? Does my guy friend see me as more than a friend and I just can't see it 🤷‍♀️

(me) I haven't dated anyone since
October 2018

(him) It'll probably stay that way too

(me) Jason why do you say that?

(him) 😂😂😂 don't ask me silly
questions

(me) Jason C'mon speak up

(him) Rack off (he always says this in
a humerous way to me)

(me) Jason f--k u poo (I say that to him
in a humerous way often, he
actually laughed at my comment)

(the observing male stranger) get a room you two ..
 

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Jason and I are really good friends. He calls me about twice a week and we chat for an hour and he texts me a few times a week. I'm neither here nor there about having anything more than that with him, we get along well mostly and have a great sense of humour. He isn't as far as I know interested in having a relationship or dating anyone full stop. I don't care if I date anyone either, not really looking but if he were to ask me on a date I would probably try it out.

He wants to teach me how to ride a dirt bike so we can ride together. His suggestion not mine. Not sure of his intentions. He has said he believes friendship is the best way to a successful relationship and that his past 2 relationships have been a slow burn so hard to read what he wants with me.

The above dialogue between us is how we always talk to each other. I wasn't in my opinion showing a more than friends interest in him but was a little taken aback with his comment "it will probably stay that way too", why would he say that? I actually thought it was a little rude as my response was to a general post question in the social group we are both in.
 

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I have known Jason for 2 yrs. He wanted to date me 2 yrs ago and I missed his signs and definitely didn't see him in that light back then so he has had interest in me in the past. I lost contact with him for about a year and he messaged me and we reconnected about 2 months ago and we have grown quite close. Thats the back story with knowing each other.
 

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The stranger was joking. It's a usual thing to say when a couple starts acting too intimate in public.

If you're getting weird vibes from this guy, my guess is that he realizes he misses opportunities with other women by having a female friend.
 

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I completely agree with Jason.
(unsolicited male opinion only)
as far as the get a room comment from the stranger, it seems off. Perhaps he was a bit touchy that day.
 

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As for the stranger, who cares what he thought?

As for "it'll prob. stay that way", that sounds a little rude. Friends often pick on each other good-naturedly, but if it stings it is ok to say "That sounded a little mean.." and hopefully get some clarification.
 

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He has said he believes friendship is the best way to a successful relationship
So, I agree with him on this one! If you are great friends, that will help you in your future relationship if it turns intimate.

About him saying "It'll probably stay that way too " - MAY be a way of him saying that you are missing all of his signs that he wants to date you and since you can't pick up vibes like that, you are unlikely to with anyone else either (I COULD just be reading into this).

BUT you did say he wanted to date you a while ago. I am guessing he'd still be interested in doing so. Go dirt-biking with him and other friendly non-date dates, and see where it goes? Just try to be more observant of signs of interest from him.
 

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Well i have mentioned to him that I would date him and hinted that all he has to do is ask but he doesn't so thats why I assume he just only sees me as a good friend now. Strange when he has made remarks in the last few weeks in conversation such as "I'm going to buy you a bike so we can ride together" and "If anyone calls you a name or is nasty to you I will be dealing with them" . Do friends feel this way about their friends?
 

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Well i have mentioned to him that I would date him and hinted that all he has to do is ask but he doesn't so thats why I assume he just only sees me as a good friend now. Strange when he has made remarks in the last few weeks in conversation such as "I'm going to buy you a bike so we can ride together" and "If anyone calls you a name or is nasty to you I will be dealing with them" . Do friends feel this way about their friends?
So, if you WANT to date him, don't hint. Bring up why he says you won't be dating. That would be a great time to say straight out "Why do you think that. I would date YOU if you asked me, but you don't".
 

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Your friend said that because he likes you. He is playing with you. If he didn’t like you that way, he would say something like, “ You will find someone and blablah” You said to him the “f” and you said is normal between you too. If that word is normal to you,(I never use it myself with friends. If I use it I am done forever with you) maybe what he said to you is normal to him too. Maybe he uses it with others too as a joke. The stranger probably doesn’t know you. He thinks you are flirting with each other. I have seen it used a lot in online conversations. People use it a lot. So don’t think much about it.
 

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Well i have mentioned to him that I would date him and hinted that all he has to do is ask but he doesn't so thats why I assume he just only sees me as a good friend
I get a feeling from your initial post that you want it to be more than friends.

Why 'hint' and wait for him to ask? You're fully capable of asking him aren't you?
 

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Yes he said i had my chance 2 yrs ago and changes the subject
Well, if you are really interested, ask him flat out. If he says NO, then you know that he has no romantic interest, and then YOU can decide on what you want to do about the friendship.
 

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Seeing that I can more than relate to your story, I'll simply say to go for it. You'll never know unless you try.
 

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I don't think he is really into me anymore..... He isn't really giving off the vibe that he sees me as anymore than a friend.
 

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I told him a month ago that I was sorry I missed the signs from 2 yrs ago and I told him that I liked him liked him, it hasn't seemed to make a difference to be honest. If he wanted to take me on a date he would have asked me by now.
 
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