[abandonmentissues]

Im sure everyone knows my story on here...but incase you dont know:

Quick info:

-Age: Both of us 21
- We planned a baby
-He dumped me when I was 8 months pregnant. Slept with me that morning, then came home at night telling me "I don't love you anymore" "Im just not feelin' it" "We just aren't good for eachother"
-Told me to leave the marital home and basically gave me no choice but to go to my parents.
- No affair as far as I know. and he denies any anyway.
- He sees the baby maybe once a week if that...its been 3 weeks with no visit as of right now.(He is supposed to pop by tomorrow I guess)
-When he visits, if he sees me, he doesn't look at or acknowledge me.




I'm just really run down and tired. He didn't file for divorce and its been four months since we have been apart. He expects me to file even though I never wanted it in the first place. I dont understand why.

I filed for child support but not divorce yet(I might have to)



I am just feeling so run down and exhausted. I am really to my limit here. I am bending but I am close to breaking.

I need advice on what I can do give myself rest...to free myself from loving this guy...I just cant deal with everything anymore.

I am super lonely, broke, tired, and I need a break, but I don't see a breather in sight.

I need suggestions, friendly words, a gun shot to the head, anything.

Please and thank you.

 

[Chris Taylor]

File for divorce and get on with your life. I know it isn't easy but once you take the first step there will be a light at the end of the tunnel.

 

[Mrs Chai]

I am just feeling so run down and exhausted. I am really to my limit here. I am bending but I am close to breaking.

I need advice on what I can do give myself rest...to free myself from loving this guy...I just cant deal with everything anymore.

I am super lonely, broke, tired, and I need a break, but I don't see a breather in sight.

I need suggestions, friendly words, a gun shot to the head, anything.

Please and thank you.

Just look into your babies beautiful eyes and you will know that everything, eventually, is going to be okay.

I have not read your previous threads, but I am wondering why do you hold so tightly to sinking ship? A man who abandon's his wife, his unborn child is not a man to want for.

Why do you hold onto him so tightly?

 

[cowgirl.at.heart]

I'm sorry if I'm off base here because I haven't read your previous posts, but have you talked to your OBGYN about the possibility that you may be going through some postpartum depression? You have every right to feel depressed about your situation-I've been there. Only my husband didn't wait until I was 8 months prego, he bailed as soon as I told him I was expecting. We also had a 5 year old. I was a little older than you (24), but still young. I don't remember feeling like you are describing. I was ANGRY more than anything. I didn't have family to turn too, so it was all on me. I did not let his ignorance ruin my life. I strongly urge you to talk to your Dr. about possible postpartum depression and start working on making YOU happy and being the best mom to that little bundle of joy you can be! You will find someone to respect you and love you, but you have to allow that to happen and move on from the thoughts that this guy will ever be "the one". I know you wanted to know "how", but unfortunately no one can tell you how. I guess the only how advice I can give is to get MAD. Realize HE is the idiot here, not you and make him regret his decision!!!!

 

[KathyBatesel]

Heck yes, get mad! Do you think you deserve this treatment? Does your child deserve to be treated as an afterthought instead of the central shining star in her parents' lives? By clinging to memories of him, you're denying her the chance to be central to YOUR world, at least, because your grief and depression are taking away from your enjoyment and bonding with her.

She deserves better. You deserve better. Stop placing your loyalty with someone who SO clearly does NOT deserve it!