What do I do?

"when he sobers up"

Those are key words.

Your husband cannot drink... especially if he's taking medications.

I've seen it with my step-son. A few weeks ago my kids had some friends over. They stayed up late and were drinking. My children are all in their mid twenties and were all living here at the time.. At some point my step-son fell asleep on a couch. I was sitting in the same room where he was sleeping when suddenly he fell on the floor off the couch and then took a huge leap across the room. He ended up in a crouch position in the corner talking to someone who was not in the room... he thought he was in some life-death situation.

We all worked to talk him down and get him and get him out of it. It was pretty hard there for a while . At least he did not have a weapon.

What was the trigger.. alcohol. He has these episodes when he drinks.. not every time but some times.

You need to put some rules in your household... #1 is no alcohol.

#2. If an episode starts you and your children leave. Yes he did not try to go after you wiht the screw driver. But in that kind of state he can.. you don't know when and if he will.

Does the program he's in have some kind of support group for the wives and family? You need help just like he does.

By the way, the spouses and children of a person with PTSD can develop PTSD from dealing with the PTSD. So you need to take special care of yourself and your children.

My father had PTSD. During WW2 he was on the Bataan Death march. If you don't know what it is look it up. European soldier were captured by the Japanese and marched for quite a distance. Many died from thirst, lack of water, starvation and lack of medical care. The ones who lived through the march ended up spending the next 3.5 years in a Japanese prisoner of war camp. They were used as slaves and just about starved to death. My father's normal weight was about 190 lbs. He weights 95 lbs when the Americans liberated his prison camp. He had life-long PTSD from that horror.

One of the things that he did was that often, if he was woken up from a sound sleep he would beat down the person who woke him up. We learned to use a broom handle to wake him up... we'd poke him with the broom handle.. then run to get out of his reach until he come to his senses. As kids we just thought it was funny. As an adult I now realize what was really going on. What he went through and what haunted him his entire life was not funny at all.

If your husband is willing to do things like stop drinking and do the things he needs to do you will all be ok. Otherwise this is not going to go well.